2006 年 2 月 7 日 星期二 【晴】

Last night slept for.... around 9 hrs, but still very tired...

then went to Mong Kowk to meet Jackie @@
heehee... she's so late lor!!! keep me waiting for.... 30 mins... sigh.... always late...
then we go for K Lunch at Neway...
Here 's our pictures...

The waiter was really nice.... honestly, i was supprised, coz he's just so nice...
dont know how to say,.... maybe nowadays, Neway pay more attention on customer service.
Jackie, you know... plx stop that kind of thinking hahaha,.... i think he was talking to you, not me.
anyway, we stayed there till 3 +++ pm...









i think Jackie just.... adore someone called Yeda Wang, a good looking singer hahaha...
yea la take more pictures! haha...

anyway, then we walked to Tsim Sha Tsui to meet another friend, Lung.
He chaged his style!!! haha... hummm walked around, went to Habour City also...
then had dessert at a Tea House...The Hui Lau Shan.
hummmm then walked to SoGo.... wah... i'm very tired leh.... tonight still got to read 2 chapters,
i got a quiz on Friday... 2 chapters man... one class one quiz... ahhh...

back now, watching at the screen... hummmm
i know he's busy, as he shown "busy" haha..
miss him...
and also missing my family... coz feel like since the school started i'll be so busy again...
then... i will look for a part-time job... so.... dont know.... sigh...

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>>February 8, 2006 at 12:59:50 PM GMT+8

2006 年 2 月 6 日 星期一 【晴】

i slept around 4 am last night.... so excited to go back school i think...

waked around 6 15am, then get stuffs ready and go take bus.
same bus but different place to go.
i had a class, which is Human Growth in MongKowk, from 9am- noon.
then i had another class in Yau Ma Tei, which class is Research Methods, from 1230-1530.
then i had the 3rd class, which is the Culture Diversities in America, from 1545-1845.
so... after all classes, my job has done, and i'm pretty tired...
coz since i'm awaked from 6 15 am, i've kept myself in contious till now, back home resting.
and now is over 8pm already.... a tired long day....

i had a coffe before the morning class, then i ve eaten one slice of bread with soy milk.
then at lunch, i ve tuna w/ vegt sandwiches without butter... + ice tea.
then... i was very tired.... then i just ate 4 fish balls and finished the ice tea.... hungry =(
yea... now very very sleepy.... wishing for long sleep...

i didnt really ve time to eat my lunch, gotta run to the Yau Ma Tei from Mong Kwok at noon.
then... i was talking on phone checking out the text books from two stores...
ahhhhh finally dad helps me get one in the evening.
so,... i was talking on phone, standing in the snack store for... around 10-15 mins, then
that woman just stared at me... then i know i should order some food.
anyway, coz i've spent so long time for waiting on line, i mean be hold on, earlier before
the first class end. ( yup, i skipped around 20 mins in the first class, then hide up at the stair
talking to the bookstore salesman.)

today is a nice start... coz... in Human Growth class, i've got some new groupmates.
they did well in the last term, so i'm looking forward to working with them actually.
they're all much elder than me i guess.... so i think i would learn a lot from them.
heehee and i'm happy that they come to talk to me as in inviting me to join together^^
so i dont need to be worried for no one's willing to work with me heehee^^.

then... in the Research Methods class... one of my ex groupmates left the day class section,
then the only guy told me today he wanna work with guys in this term
(i guess coz i was too..... bad to him... i mean... i was too arthoritative... but i had no choices)
then yea, kindda new group would be formed by next class =) and i'm happy with that.
new pattern, new works, new results, learn better.

the last one, Diversities Cultures in America...
learnt lots of historical information about America, a bit like geography.. just a bit.
then we've talked alot after class. hey, this teacher is really funny and friendly.
he's a nice old man... that's the first impression. well... i've heard that he's a nice teacher.
like his class, but i'm really tired after two classes... hummmmm erhhh..... hummmm...
yea, gotta rest...

miss my darling,
he's busy =)

thanks for jesus..... i'll work hard.

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>>February 7, 2006 at 12:26:08 PM GMT+8

2006 年 2 月 5 日 星期日 【晴】

Savage Garden lyrics
"Savage Garden I Knew I Loved You lyrics"

Maybe it's intuition
But some things you just don't question
Like in your eyes
I see my future in an instant
and there it goes
I think I've found my best friend
I know that it might sound more than
a little crazy but I believe

[chorus:]

I knew I loved you before I met you
I think I dreamed you into life
I knew I loved you before I met you
I have been waiting all my life

There's just no rhyme or reason
only this sense of completion
and in your eyes
I see the missing pieces
I'm searching for
I think I found my way home
I know that it might sound more than
a little crazy but I believe

[repeat chorus]

A thousand angels dance around you
I am complete now that I found you

[repeat chorus to fade]


***

hummmm
today wake up so late.... coz last night gotta do something for dad...
i hand copy all the contact number for dad... then after that i dont feel sleepy anymore..
i might sleep at 5 am today morning, so i wake around noon.
then watched the movie, Spide Man, wow~~ great movie, i love it~
not finished yet, then gotta pick up the pen and write something for darling and my friend.
yup, then packed up all the stuffs i ve been preparing for long, then went to post office finally.
hahaha... was waiting for it opened again, and i was a bit lazy... before lazy i was too busy.
heehee... i think darling and my friend wont mind hoho.

hummmm today had a light lunch, hee... a slice of bread with kaya (yummy kaya from vic vic),
and some nuts, hummmmm then the canberry juice. hee
then just now pass by mcdonald's... share some food with my sister, leggy.
unlucky her last night went into the hospital and took the injection for skin alergy.
that's also why i was staying too late at the living room.

hummmm dont know how's darling now, i miss him so much last night.
i've sent him some little gifts and snack hahaha... re they for valentine? hummmmm not really.
actually lately is strange, everything comes so fast... i cant really catch on stuffs... =S
the christmas , chinese new year and valentine..

last night had chated with Hak Gon, Alesja ^^ heehee
missing all of my dearest friends, and make me think of the canada and all the memorries...

thanks for Jesus,
coz of every new bright days... ^^

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>>February 6, 2006 at 10:23:28 AM GMT+8

2006 年 2 月 4 日 星期六 【晴】

Yo~

today i waked at 1 pm.... nice sleep..
those fishes nightmares gone...

hummm we went out for lunch, dim sum...
then went to book store, then back home...
i like the cd, "greatest of love", especially the song,# 14 I Knew I Loved You (Savage Garden).
that's really cool man...
then i just checked out the song from Jill, from yahoo.
she's Janice's sister. nice... their voices are so similar... hahaha...
Jill's song "Lonly", nice. her voice is quite sweet...

hummm...
just now chated with darling hahaha... sweet him ^^
you know what... i asked him if there's any girls falling for him... he said lots and lots..
oh my god... hahaha... aiyo.... what to do with me here.... haha.... i'm a bit worried.
honestly, if he two time me, then i would dont know what to do....

choice A, yell at him via the phone, then break up.
choice B, two time other ppl behind him.
choice C, heck care all the stuffs.
choice D, go fuck around.
choice E, encourage him continoue, then i fly to sg to kill him. hahahaha...
choice F, fly over, then flirt with other guys in front of him.

i really love him alot... i dont know what would happen between us...
but let's wait and see how things go... coz i love him.

school start on Tue... hummm waiting for it,
i will meet Jackie on Wed and Thurs, hahaha looking forward to seeing her again!
i know she has been losing weight, now is pretty thin... oh man... envy her lots...
but for me, i'm not so worried for losing weight actually, i just wanna look nicer and healthier.
if losing weight would affect my health, i wouldnt really want to lose so much.
but i think i do need exercise more often... yea... look nicerand, being healthier after exercise.
i wanna join the dancing class later. i like dancing actually but didnt ve much chances or time.
so... if later, the school got settle down and if the time tabe is allowed me to add a dancing
course, i would pay a little money go learn dancing =)

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>>February 5, 2006 at 10:46:03 AM GMT+8

2006 年 2 月 3 日 星期五 【晴】

wahhhh

last night got a damn bad nightmare...
big fishes... color fishes.... can swim on ground, then attack human for nothing.
huge and strong body, blue, orange and red big fishes swim on ground.
wanna get into houses, but dont bite anyone. just destroy the city for fun.
i dont understand why i had this kind of dreams...
maybe watching too much the powerpuff girls ? crazy...

nothing much, actually yesterday didnt type... just post the test result.
haha... yesterday played badminton with leggy in the morning, then later went to libary.
today, nothing much, just wake and cook lunch for my sisters.
mom is out with aunt. aunt has the eyes check up at the hospital today.
hummm dad's out to work... so i stayed at home for the whole day.
i m very bored waiting for the monday come... counting down my days to the war again.
gonna back to the sec round of the war....

i got the phone call from school, my appication s been approve already! ^^ yeah~
so i will take hunman growth intead of the abnormal psy. woo... nice...
so i would have two days for school/week. only Tue and Fri. nice...
but every Tue and Fri, from 9 am to 6 45pm. harsh... but that's what i ask for.
yup... so pretty soon i would start searching for a part-time job.

hummm...
lately, nothing much to do, just resting and resting.
nice, coz can rest, then later i would have more energy on the way.
i just wanna keep myself pure, in this world...... here's too much sad things...

after the love test on yesterday, i ensure something...
i ensure my personality in love life... hummmm i guess i'm a very independent girl, but need to be
cared and concerned. that's true for me... and... i'm easy going but it doesnt mean i'm not serious.
hummm... i need space but not too much... as in my situation now. it's not easy for me to pick up
a new relationship, but since i've taken up, it's harder to get over. i need my partner to pay efforts
not just only me continouing on... i need to be accepted, to be cared, by the responses.
hummmm......... i m not sure if i'm asking for too much.... but that's so basic for the comminication
within two ppl, and essential for the realtionship growth.
once my friend asked me why women is different. i just told him... women need to communicate,
and... if there's not replies that means men is refusing us.

in the comment for that test, i've also stated that the insecure feelings could constantly influence
the relatioship... but why men dont pay attention on why, and then just blaming the girls
unreasonable or not considerated?... it's unfair... in the other way, women sometimes is quite
unreasonalbe, that makes the situation worse... so... i dont mean to say women is always right,
but you know what....
men and women should respect each other, in terms of needs, minds, abilities, etc.
same rights and same works.

what should i do.... i dont think he understand what i mean... and i'm not sure if i understand
what he means.. duh... it's really hard... and i think it's soon to be exhausted...
and it's also why i say... it's now or never... coz time is running out... could be exhausted...
i want to keep it going, coz i really love him a lot, and i believe that we could work out,
but, if the situation is like this, and then future is also the same thing... i will not be able to stand
that, i feel so tough... i think we could have better communication, but... there's no responses.
that means the rejection /refuse? i dont know.. men should talk if they're men.

well... giving more time is helpful or harmful ?
typing these all out is good or bad?
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>>February 4, 2006 at 11:41:52 AM GMT+8

2006 年 2 月 2 日 星期四 【晴】

Love Test v.s. My comment


Castor, when you're in love, you're a Prized Partner. Approximately 16% of people share this type with you. What does this title say about you? Read on to find out.



You appreciate the finer things in life and tend to seek out others who share your refined tastes. High fashion, gourmet meals, luxurious getaways — these are the kinds of things that prized partners like you enjoy. If you can experience them with a worldly, stylish mate, it's all the better. [55% true only]

You are drawn to people who know how to take care of themselves and are hooked in socially.[True]
Whether you're out at a club or an exclusive restaurant, it's important to you to be part of the scene. However you aren't just a hedonist. On the contrary, you know that the good life comes at a cost. As a result, you've likely set goals for yourself to will help you live it. Because you have higher ambition than most people do, it will be best for you to find a partner who values your drive to succeed and can share in your dreams for the future. That way you can make it to the top together. [hummm kindda true, 58% only ]

Now that you have general sketch of your love personality, you should understand the 7 core personality dimensions that determined it.



Your love personality type is a composite of seven personality dimensions. Together they make up your love personality type, and individually they offer insight about particular aspects of how you look at the world and those around you.

Be aware that some people with the same personality type will have different dimension scores. Only by looking at both someone's type and dimensions can you get the full picture of who they are.

Here are your scores relative to others who took the test:



Modern Traditional
Emotional Rational
Pampered Rugged
Down-to- earth Dreamy
Easygoing Particular
Humble Self- possessed
Independent Connected



Dimension #1: Modern versus Traditional
People who are more traditional tend to carry those feelings over into their search for love. For example, traditional types tend to believe that when a man and a woman go on a date, the man should pay. They're also likely to feel that red roses are the perfect gift for a first date and that idealistic weddings are the only way to go. For someone who is traditional, tried-and-true rituals are important to uphold.

People who are more modern are likely to hold a contrary opinion. For one, they'll often feel that people on a date should split the bill. They may also think that a Vegas wedding is just as good as a church service. It all depends on the people involved and what feels special to them. In addition, modern types tend to believe in equality in relationships and seek true respect from their significant others.

Your score on the Love Test shows that you're more traditional than many other people who took it. This means that in love, you're more inclined to follow time-tested dating patterns, especially at the beginning of a relationship. You may even come from a long line of daters who've taught you the many "rules" of courtship — both explicit and implicit. These kinds of dating traditions dictate what a man is supposed to do in a relationship and what a woman is supposed to do. Sometimes, even same-sex couples will uphold these traditional roles, one taking on the male role and one taking on the female role, without losing their gender identity. The point is that these roles have become ingrained in our culture over the years and, to some degree, appear to have become ingrained in you as well. As a result, you tend to be one who'll look to the ways of the past to help you best create your future love.
[NOT True... i'm not... the last sentence is right, i wouuld tend to be one to
lookthe ways of the past to help me best create my future... but it doesnt
mean i 'll always take the girl role, i mean... i'm ok sometimes if i dont need to be as a girl role. i repect men as same as i respect women. lots of choices to
choose but not necessary to be referring to the specific reasons behind.]

Dimension #2: Emotional versus Rational
Those who scored high on the rational scale are people who can usually take a step back during a heated situation in order to think out how best to respond. When provoked, their level-headedness makes them more likely to step back from an argument rather than fan the flames. Rational types are also typically strong thinkers who enjoy working through challenging problems to find a solution.

Those who scored more highly on the emotional scale tend to respond to intense situations by expressing their feelings as they have them. In this way, emotional people can sometimes come across as being either intense or impulsive. On the positive side, people who are highly emotional tend to be more direct than their rational counterparts and can be good about confronting issues in order to clear the air.

Compared with others, your results indicate that you're more rational than many people who took the test. This means that you're someone who is quite capable when it comes to logical reasoning. In fact, it's likely that you apply this valuable ability in a variety of situations, both personal and professional. Being rational and even-tempered can indeed serve you well, particularly during long-term relationships; almost no couple experiences constant bliss. At times when the road gets rocky, your deliberate way of processing difficult emotions can help you and your partner create more focus and direction in your relationship. It will also keep shouting matches to a minimum.
[ yup,.... kindda right,... but not 100% always, i guess....]

Being high on the rational scale means that you have a talent for observing what's happening in your own life. By being witness to events and your reactions to them, you can make more conscious choices for yourself. Not everyone has this ability. On the contrary, many people let their emotions pull them off-center and miss great opportunities. So be happy you have a good head on your shoulders. Being the voice of reason can be an attractive quality. It can also make you more compatible with the many people who'll come into your life.


Dimension #3: Pampered versus Rugged
Those who scored as more rugged are outdoorsy types who generally enjoy being out in nature. They're also individuals who are willing to take risks and get a little dirty in order to have some fun. For highly rugged people, the world is their playground as well as their sanctuary.

Individuals who are more pampered include people who appreciate the many creature comforts associated with civilization. Pampered types typically prefer that their recreation be of the indoor variety.

Your results show that compared to other people who took the test, you fall on the more pampered side of the line. This suggests that while you probably aren't opposed to a little fresh air and sunshine, you tend to prefer the kind of relaxation that only indoor activities can offer. Whether you're shopping in a mall, sitting in a theatre, or relaxing at home with a good book, you appreciate the ease of being inside. Pampered types like you will take a massage and a good meal over a hike and campfire almost any day of the week. Facing the elements typically isn't your idea of a good time. In love, it will be important to find a partner who also likes this brand of leisure. If not on the same level as you, at least enough so you can share the kinds of experiences that you value.
[depends.... sometimes i do like outdoor activities. but it's true that i would like someone who could undersatnd and share his life iwth me, just like i do.]

Dimension #4: Down-to-earth versus Dreamy
Individuals high on the dreamy scale include those people who would choose the bubbles of champagne over a glass of wine simply because it seemed a more romantic gesture. Highly dreamy people tend to see the magic in life. They may also actively seek out ways to make their love relationships special so that each day becomes an occasion.

People who are more down-to earth prefer life's everyday moments to grand gestures that seem over-the-top. They are realists who aren't easily swayed by styling or symbolism. For the most part, down-to-earth people would rather avoid glossy exteriors to get closer to what's on the inside. This tendency typically holds true across the board — in their friendships, in professional life, and in love.

Compared with others, your score weighed more heavily on the down-to-earth end of the scale. This result indicates that you're the kind who realizes that although romance can be nice, it takes more than hearts and flowers to keep the world turning. Rather than focus your attention on fairytale dreams, you usually like to live in the here-and-now of reality. As a result, you often find happiness in the small pleasures present in everyday life: a good cup of coffee, a solid night's sleep, or a sunny day. These are things that others might overlook, but you can truly appreciate them. This easy sense of satisfaction with life can come across to others in a very engaging way, particularly in love. Those around you likely recognize the value you place in little things and appreciate your willingness to accept situations and people as they are. This kind, genuine nature is sure to draw others to you in life and in love.
[Yea... quite true...]

Dimension #5: Easygoing versus Particular
Highly particular people tend to strive for perfection in whatever they do. They also tend to have refined, and at times expensive, tastes. Appearance can be important to particular types, so taking care of themselves is often a high priority.

Easygoing people, on the other hand, don't tend to place a lot of importance on appearances. "Keeping up with the Joneses," whether in beauty, fashion, or possessions, isn't typically a top priority for easygoing types. They tend to be more impressed by things that have little to do with life's trappings.

In your case, you scored on the more easy-going end of the continuum compared with others who took the test. This indicates that you generally aren't too worried about having a place for everything and everything in its place. On the contrary, most times you tend to think it's more important to just be who you are and take life as it comes. So if your slacks aren't pressed or you're having a bad hair day, it's not likely to throw you for a loop. Instead, you're one of those people who seems to know that there are more important things than your appearance. You're also not the type to be awed by power or celebrity. In fact, if you saw your favorite actor in the supermarket, you'd probably simply smile and say hello rather than clamoring for an autograph. The people in your life likely see this laid back nature and appreciate that you're willing to take them as they are. The ease you often possess can be an attractive force; it makes have a you calming presence to those you are near.
[This part is so TRUE!!]


Dimension #6: Humble versus Self-possessed
People who score highly on being self-possessed are generally confident types who believe strongly in their abilities. This feeling may translate into a sense of pride in their level of physical fitness, a sense of assurance about their intellectual abilities, or a high regard for their sexual prowess. Highly self-possessed people often have a charisma and energy that makes them the center of attention.

Individuals who score more highly on the humble end of the scale are typically grounded people who would usually prefer to go unnoticed rather than make a big fuss. So instead of trumpeting their achievements to others, humble types will often opt to celebrate their successes in private. People who are highly humble also tend to be humanists who see others as equals, rather than feeling superior to anyone.

Compared with others, you scored on the more grounded end of the continuum. This means that you're not likely to go around boasting to others about your abilities or worth. Your humility is the stronger virtue. You can possess a kind of quiet strength that doesn't need to be voiced. It simply is. You're one of those people that others probably describe as "the salt of the Earth," because you're likely to appreciate and recognize others rather than put yourself first. This humble quality that you embody can actually help you when you need to make tough decisions. Unencumbered by arrogance, you're likely to see a situation for what it is and make choices accordingly, rather than being impulsive or unduly confident.
[wow, thanks alot..., that's kindda supprised, i'd never thought of that..haha..]

In love, being humble can sometimes make you seem more genuine to others, because it's obvious that you're not all about self-aggrandizement and flash. You're just yourself. While this quiet nature of yours is an admirable thing, remember that it's okay to toot your own horn once and a while. Feeling good about yourself isn't the same thing as feeling superior to others. For people like you, the trick is to be humble while still truly loving yourself for who you are.
[Well, it's always.... so blissful if your man loves you as who you are... but be
ware of that, you gotta accept your man, too... can you do that? so... even he's
not your cup of tea... then how? it's your question.]

Dimension #7: Independent versus Connected
People who are highly connected tend to make their relationships with others a priority. They keep in close touch with family and friends when they can and are usually softhearted, empathic people.

Highly independent people tend to be less open with those around them than their connected counterparts. They typically enjoy having time to themselves. Independent types are apt to search for meaning in ideas, things, or particular experiences more often than in their relationships. As a result, they can be at their best whether they're in a relationship or flying solo.

Compared with the other people who took this test, your score weighed more heavily on the realistic end of the scale. This means that although you surely appreciate the presence of others in your life, you're often your own best companion. In fact, there are certain things that you probably prefer to do alone, even if you don't have to. Whether you enjoy taking yourself to a movie now and then or simply for a quiet drive, you seem to be one of those people who understand that quality time doesn't always have to mean social time. So while you likely appreciate the chance to socialize with friends and family, you're apt to covet your down time as well.
[Yup,.... i'm quite independant... sometimes i just love, enjoy staying alone.]

When it comes to relationships, you're not usually one to dive right in with your heart on your sleeve. Instead, you're more likely to hold back a bit and open up to the new romance more slowly. This kind of distance may simply feel safer. However, once you let yourself fall deeply in love, you can develop as close and real a bond as anyone out there.
[yea... i'm quite slow, and cold... but since i really love someone, i will really
love him and give him everything of my best. i would need to be connected
with him, but still could be quite independant... but somehow i find it's hard,
coz sometimes i feel like my darling is much more independant than me, and..
that causes lots of insecure feelings. and this feelings re strange. the doubts
could constantly influence me. that's not controled, is like instinct.]



When it's all said and done, much of compatibility comes down to that X factor known as chemistry. However, by knowing the love personality types that are the closest fit with your own, you're much more likely to know a good thing when you see it. Also, understanding your compatible types can give you new insight to why certain people you meet just don't seem to match up. Realize that most relationship problems can be fixed — so you're far from doomed if your types aren't a perfect match. Instead, think of the information as a mechanism to learn more about yourself and your romantic life.

Although the old adage tells us that "opposites attract," generally, research indicates otherwise. In fact, studies show that opposites don't attract; similar people do. So the type that you're apt to be most compatible with is actually your own: the Prized Partner. There are, of course, exceptions to this rule. However the dimensions measured in this test focus on attitudes and behaviors that, when matched between two people, increase probability of having a compatible relationship.

When looking for a match, the type that is the next most compatible to your own is Independent Spirit.

If independent spirits had a theme song, it would probably be "Don't Box Me In." Independent spirits typically aren't fond of being crowded. On the contrary, they appreciate having the space to do their own thing and don't often feel swayed by what others are up to. They're not the type who typically feels the need to hang out at the "cool" clubs or sample the latest restaurants. In fact, they may not even know the latest buzz about those things, since those things really aren't important to them.

They probably prefer to come up with their own ideas of places to go and people to spend time with. Others are naturally drawn to their sense of creativity and the mystery that surrounds their lives. Sometimes, independent spirits will treasure the company of others, but only if those people aren't super-dependent types who want to be with them all the time. Finding a like-minded spirit, someone who prizes their independence as much as they do, will probably bring them and their mate the most happiness.

You should also look for a Steady Mate when scouting out romance; that's the second most compatible type to your own.

Steady mates are the kind of romantic partners that others will want to lean on in times of distress. This is true because their logical minds allow them to remain cool-headed during a crisis. This quality can make them seem a bit heroic at times. And for that reason, mates who value their calm, rational nature will make a great match. [ So TRUE MAN!!! ]

They need someone who won't expect them to be overly softhearted or to express their feelings all the time. Their mates should know that just because they don't always express their emotions, it doesn't mean that they don't care. On the contrary, they'll always value the quality of the connections between them and the people they care about. Because of this fact, it will be important for them to find a romantic partner who knows how to care about a relationship and put some effort into it[Plz... it's so true...]. Once they find a person like that, they can live life to the fullest.

So now that you know the love personality types you're most compatible with, what about the ones that you're least similar to? Here's some information about the type that is your opposite.

Who isn't a good match for you?
The type opposite to yours is Idealistic Romantic. "Happily ever after," may be the three words that idealistic romantics enjoy dreaming about, — next to "I love you," of course. They likely have their share of idealistic dreams for the future, especially when it comes to imaging their perfect partner. They are socially skilled and know how to make the people close to them feel special. As a result, they're apt to have their eyes out for someone who can do the same.

The rituals of romance are important to them, so someone who doesn't appreciate the value of things like red roses and candlelight dinners probably won't hold their interest for very long. However, they're not just looking for a thoughtful date. They seek a deeper emotional bond. Once they find that special love, they'll probably be the first to declare that they're head-over-heels rather than hold back their emotions. After all, what good is being in love if you can't share it? [ Get away from me if you're this type of persons =P kidding... we could be ood friends =) ]

Now you have your guide to helping you spot a good mate. But once you find a relationship, you want to be able to hang onto it. That's where understanding your personality really comes into play. Read on for advice to keep your love going strong



Love can turn your world a little upside down, so it's not so surprising that being in a relationship may sometimes result in changes to your personality. Even psychologists agree that love can alter people's behavior and influence which personality attribute you display. [ Yup, true]

Part of the reason love can bring about this kind of transformation is that in a romantic relationship, people tend to let down their guard. It's the disarming aspect of close relationships that gets us to be our real selves — a complex mixture of the best and the worst that we each can be.

As a result, in love, certain aspects of personality usually hidden from view can come forth in ways that aren't always very positive. During stressful periods in a relationship, or even in good times, you may find yourself reverting to old negative patterns of behavior or expressing your least favorable traits. Dynamics from your childhood or experiences with past lovers can all come to the surface, so that suddenly you're dealing with a lot more than just what's in front of you.
[ actually, i think ppl should have some changes in the diff time of period. that's called growth... so i do respect myself changing. it's the enjoyment in life, although sometimes i would be fear.]

The best way to combat this tendency is to take a step back whenever you feel yourself beginning to act out old emotions or behaving in a way that could be harmful to your relationship. By grounding yourself and making sure you are truly present, you can gain perspective on your situation. Ask yourself what you're thinking and feeling to see if it's an accurate reflection of what's happening in that moment. If you find yourself overreacting or reacting based on the past, you can make changes to behave in the way that feels best to you and most truly represents your best self. [ =P nice... i like the true soul more than my appearance, even though my appearance could sometimes tell you who i am. however appearance could be facked, but my heart is real, sincere.]

Realize that attraction, an integral element of romantic love, can make your body react in physical ways to your thoughts and surroundings. In this way, attraction can have the effect of a stimulant or generate the same physical sensations that in other environments would be considered excitement, fear, or stress. When in a heightened state like that, it's much easier to act in ways that you later can reflect on and wonder, "What was I thinking?" So take heed of attraction's power. [ attraction.... hummm dont know... weird... hard to catch]

In addition to these factors, given your love personality type, there are certain issues that are more likely to come up for you when you're in a romantic relationship.

For prized partners, the issue is feeling that a relationship or love interest is dragging you down. Because you usually have strongly held goals for yourself and well-established beliefs about the things and people that should be in your life, you may sometimes fail to recognize your own affection for someone. For instance, you may write off a love interest for being a little sloppy in their appearance or acting in ways you find uncool, rather than realizing that you really do like them. [ hahahhaha.... yup... and i admit that i hate being in love since i am in love. it's true that... i dont quit stuff easily, so it's hard to pick up and even harder to get down, get over.]

When you find yourself focused on what someone should be, rather than who they are, try to keep your feelings clear. Sit with yourself for a moment to see how you feel about the person using your heart and not your head. In some cases you'll still find that the person isn't a good match for you. However in others, you may be surprised to discover that your heart doesn't care about your head's usual standards regarding who is an "appropriate" love. Be bold and willing to move outside your usual boundaries. You never know where love will turn up.
[well.... true.... but it's hard to keep feelings clear. and i can tell now i'm not so clear. i'm always waiting for the supprises every single days. i'm excited whe i discover something nice. i really dont want to care about him, but couldnt. well, i really dont know where love will turn up, and it's really hard to say if it's the usual boundary or not. ]


Getting perspective
No matter what difficulties you encounter, you can benefit from clearing your mind so that your true inner voice is revealed. There are several ways of gaining this focus, including physical exercise, meditation, breathing exercises, yoga, and others. The exercise below involves a more active form of mediation that will quickly clear out the noise in your head to leave you with a knowingness that can guide you to right action in your relationships and throughout your life.
[Perhaps..]


Step 1:
Get yourself in a comfortable sitting position.

Step 2:
Picture a chord that goes around your waist and into the center of the earth. This is your grounding chord. Feel the weight of it pull you down into the earth, so that you are connected to it.

Step 3:
Picture green light coming from the earth — the earth's energy, moving slowly from your feet, to your knees, and finally arriving at your stomach. Imagine that it starts a swirling motion in your center.

Step 4:
Now picture white light coming from above, shining down on you and moving through the crown of your head, to your shoulders, flowing down your arms and also down your spine and to your stomach, where it mixes with the green light you brought up from the earth.

Step 5:
Imagine a flow of light moving down the grounding chord and into the earth, and let it carry away all the things you are worried about, all the conflicts you have. Picture them in full life form and then watch as they wash away in the flood of light that leaves your body.

Step 6:
Once you have done this for some time, picture the rest of the light from your stomach moving up to leave through the crown of your head, finishing the clearing of your energy. That means you can stop drawing in light or energy from the earth and from above you.

Step 7:
Sit in quiet relaxation for a few minutes, noting what it is like to be in a body that is clear and a mind that is without worries and anxiety. If worries come back at you, just note that they are there, and watch as they flow right past you without bothering you a bit.

Step 8:
Now you are ready to look at whatever issue you are dealing with, or to attend to any questions you might have. For example, if you are not sure about the person you are with, ask yourself: Are they right for you? Is this relationship having a positive effect on your life? Is this person being fair? Are you? This is the time to ask yourself all the questions that have been creating tension for you. Sit patiently and wait as your higher self tells you the answers.





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>>February 3, 2006 at 11:00:18 AM GMT+8

2006 年 2 月 1 日 星期三 【晴】

last night got serious stormache, couldnt slept for the whole night till around 5 am.

today woke up soooo late around 1++pm.... couldnt go play badminton with leggy,
coz she need to do homework... hummm.

then i watched vcd, Jiang Hu, hummm till mom's back.
i had sushi for lunch, and then i watched another vcd, Dr.T and women (i guess)
ahhh... nice movies =)
the first movie is about brothers, diff ppl has diff definition on "brother".
nice.... Jacky looks great, hahaha... Andy also... ahhh... hk movie...
then the sec one is more likely telling the psy story.
some informations about the mental disorders. ahhh... great man... but not so lucky.
and one of the woman remind me something... which is...
i belong to myself, not anyone. smart you would know what i mean...
castor undersatnds, that's enough.

then miki's back... we watched another movie hahaha!
we watched a cartoon... Detective Conan... a Japanese cartoon... very nice~

hummmmm...
today download the time table from school net... but still not sure about the result...
really wanna know... coz i wanna plan the schedule for the coming term...

castor, stay strong for yourself, not for anyone.
love yourself plx... dont get hurt so easily...

thanks..
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>>February 2, 2006 at 2:33:54 PM GMT+8

2006 年 1 月 31 日 星期二 【晴】

last night i was feeling quite bad...
i slept very late, then woke late today.

I bought something from Esprit again... =.=|||

last night, i watched TV, at Pearl-- Nip Tuck,
oh man... i hope the next season would come up soon...
i guess Shawn still loves Julia alot... they hug while the end of the family dinner,
he said " i used to look at you as my wife, but forgot looking you as Julia"
he wishpered to her, " I love you." Julia waited then replied " i always love you. "
Shawn still care about her actually, he couldnt forget her... he s forgiven her already...
and of course he has forgiven Christian, too. They're the best buddies, as brothers.
then their son, Mark (i'v forgoten his name), and that woman(Mark's girlfriend)...
that woman is not a woman. you know what i mean... She used to be a man.
Mark doesnt notice that coz he's still young, and not experienced enough...
Christian and Shawn helped her to make her virgin deeper, more real like, then she agree
to break up with Mark. why she loves super young guy? coz of ... "That".

hummmm
today, i woke up, then come on line, coz i miss him, my darling.
he's on line, he's back to work already... oh... for me, he's a tough guy, really.
he didnt that offer, then get pay instead.
i planed to get a part-time job later when i get my time table for the coming term.
i m waiting for the result of my application. i try to drop the Abnormal Psy, and add HumanGrowth.
So, my time table would be much more flxible.
After grad on Feb 07, i would visit SG again. that's what i wish and try hard to do huh =)
hummm let's see how things go... coz i need to save up money, and i wanna enroll some
language courses. i would try again to get into Cathay after all. hee

hummmm.... today Miki got a body check.
we all went there wait for her, then walk to the market to have noodle, then we went to Sha Tin,
hummm we went to Ikea !!! hahaha... nice ! we had hotdog and pop corn at there too~
i bought a dark grey short glass. coz i ve some dry-flower, so i need something to apply.
ver nice =)

then we walked around, we went to Muji, hummm then we went to Esprit...
sigh.... Miki wanna use the voucher, then of course she need to spend over than $ 500 HKD.
the point is... she doesnt need to spend so much on clothes...
i'm her sister, so i ve to help lor, hor?
then i buy a short-tee, $199 HKD, and buy a key chain... then she buys a long-sleeves tee with
a key chain, so i could use the vip card with that $100 voucher.
so, totally we pay $410 ++ HKD. is that nice? i dont think so...

coz i'd never planed to buy any clothes anymore since i 've bought too much lately.
from Nov, when i'm back from Vancouver, i bought :
2 short-tees: around $270 (after 50% off) in WeekendWorkshop and (right price) in Esprit
3 long sleeves tees: around $ 380 (after 50%off) in WeekendWorkshop and (right price) in Esprit
1 suit with 3 shirts: around $ 1200 (after 20% off by credit card) in Mastina...
1 jeans, 1 tan, 1 bag: around $ 950 in Esprit (edc's "perfect price" = right price)
1 belt, 1 necklace: around $50++ in two stores with no brands
1 key chain, a few hair clips: around$50+ (after 50%off for ket chain) in Esprit and Assories store.
5 Korean nail color-pens, 1 nail color : around $ 90 in Assories store
1 hot- coffe cup: around $ 80 in Starbucks
1 glass : $ 28 in Ikea
the formal high heel shoses: around $ 800++ (after 10-20% off) in Joy&Peace
and the casual high heel shoses : around $ 330 (after 10-20%off ) in Inshosesnet

hummm i guess there're some more i've spended on but i really forgot what are they..
you know... too much minor stuffs... couldnt count already.... So... let me count...

totall: $ 4298 HKD.... =.=
(around $682.2 CAD, or around 914.5 SGD)

sincei 'm back... i've spended $4298
in.... how many months?.... in 3 MONTHS....!?
still vent counted some minor stuffs.... gosh... i ve spended too much.....!!!
aiyo.... i spend $5000 HKD for my SG trip.... and now, i've spend almost the same as my SGtrip.
sigh........... so now, i really should save up money for my next year SG trip.
actually i need to buy some stuffs... i still need to buy something, or do something.
i would like to get one more jeans or skirt, and i want a jacket and the casual-shoses, and
a bag for school. and i want a hair cut or to perm my hair again.
it's been.... almost a year havent visit my hair stylist. uuhhhhh... but sincei 've spent too much,
i dont really want to keep throwing out money... duh....

hummm,.... if i want to see my darling, i should start looking for a part-time job and save up money.
and i shouldnt spend too much, coz some of the money is from my lovely fat fat dad.

After dinner, back from Sha Tin,... tired now,
then i plan to go exercise tomorrow =P

thanks for Jesus, coz i'm really lucky, i ve a nice family and i ve enough food, love and education,
although i'm not rich, but i 'm much lucky than lots of ppl already...
really have to give thanks =)
thanks to my lovely family, coz i m so loved in my family, and thanks to everyone who has loved
me so much, such as my friends and my aunts and uncles, of course my mama yeye and
gongong ..., my teachers and dear principle, heehee...
sounds like thanks giving day huh... ^^ and then... thanks to my dearest friends of course,
thanks to my darling, coz he'd never given up himself and never given me up.
thanks for his hard working, and i've learnt so much from him in some degrees... really.
and that's also why i dont want to give up our relationship so easily... i love him and i appricate
him although we're not perfect and the situation is not good...
and thanks to Jesus that He listened my prayers,... i reall love my darling.... and i dont want to give
up so easily... =) thanks * tears.

***

>>February 1, 2006 at 6:50:42 PM GMT+8

2006 年 1 月 30 日 星期一 【晴】

today, woke, then eat out with family.
finally can enjoy our onw meal time...
we had dim sum at a resturant... hummm we like chinese food.

then... we planed to go Sha Tin,... but finally we didnt go...
we went home, then leggy wanna play badminton... then i played with her lor,
just down stair.... near to the parking lot... hee =)
happy, we played for 45 mins only, but had lots of fun.

well well well...
last night i got nightmares again...
i got chased, was wooing by a rich guy... oh gosh... what happened?
i forgot already... but strange... coz i remember that was not the happy dream...
why lately i got so many nightmares... i hate that, really...

i miss darling.... how's he now?
why... he doesnt show up ? sometimes i think... is it my problem?
if my changes could make myself feeling better, that's good.
somehow i got it... i feel better than the past.
sometimes i still cant accept his attitude... but does he know that? or he just wont change?
would he mind just doing something for me? i dont understand why i dont find his efforts.
i really hope... he could show me... and he would show me.
if that's my problem to make myself feeling bad, i wanna know how can i do to make it better.
i want him to tell me what's wrong with me.

>>January 31, 2006 at 1:45:57 PM GMT+8

2006 年 1 月 30 日 星期一 【晴】

Back from Ma On Shan, grandpa(mom's side) home... hummm,...
nice, actually every year have to attend to the sec BIG EVENT...

i woke at noon, then going out around 2+++ pm with family,
then had my favorite Fliet' O Fish with fries+ Ice tea at McDonalds hahaha!! in Ma On Shan..
then just went to super market with my mom and aunt, coz...
sisters and dad wanted to hang around the mall.
then mom, me and aunt bought some drink then walked back to grandpa's home.
i ve been sitting at there and listening the chat.... kindda close with my aunts actually...
they're very friendly, sincere and straight forward... not like dad's side.
hummm till my dear cousin, Sheila came... then we start chatting...
she's my closest cousin.... coz we were always playing together when we were young.
and her mom, Aunt Kitty, likes me a lot, and always buy me sth nice when she shops with her
daugthers... she just treats me so well... so yea, i like to be with my cosuins, Sheila and Issabella.
they're the prettiest girls in my mind actually hahaha...
Sheila 's bak from Austrila... hummm she might not go back in the short period.
really nice to chat with her. she's very sincere and friendly. she's not a tough girl, but...
very true and... dont know how to say... just feeling comfortable to be with her anyway.

one of my uncle, he's super freaking.... haha... i know he was reading some books about the
掌相.... erhhh..... then i ask him how mine look like... hahaha...
i'm a christain, ok? but i wanna know how he looks my life. then... i got the resule is kindda
ture but something's the unknown. well well well... i'm not saying i trust him or not,
but for fun, it was funny. coz he says i 'll ve two or more guys in this coming year, then my marry
might be stabled, but i'm not the hua hua girl, then... i ve to use my hand to build my career,
and some ppl would help me in my career path...
and my husband would come into my life later, depends on how old i can live. haha...
he said i ve lots of ideas, but strange ideas, lots of ocnflicts in mind. he askedd me true or not.
well... dont know... strange, huh...
so long time ago, when i was borned, mom and dad take me to a 掌相佬, then he picked this
chinese name 美君 for me, then he even says i would get marry early in my life.
hummm... he said i m not a rich girl, and i need to build my carrer with my own hands after marry.

hummm back from there, feeling tired...
then i ve also chated with another cousin, Vicky, hummm the one in my old school haha...
she's quite pretty and punk. nice looking too. hummm she's friendly, willing to help others,
she's a really nice friend that's for sure.

last ight got nightmares again...
the dream was so real... i was chasing by some killers on street...
so i gotta run and escape from them on street... then finally i need to hide myself in a resturant
and i need to fight back by gun. it was so real... and i was so calm in that dream...
i gotta play the role as a killer, to shoot the guys... and i was also protecting my family's safty.
someone in the dream helped me to take my gun and fight... but finally i had to rely on myself
to shoot the guys... i was prett calm.
it was so real, man.... sigh.... always got nightmares lately...

anyway, last night i've chated with Alesja on line!! hhahaha we were one audio. ^^
then just now got Jackie's call, wow^^ heehee... really wanna date her out la !! miss her...
hummm... yea finally i didnt receiver darling's sms, so i just called him... hum... twice.
yea he recieved, but he was busy.

maybe calling again tomorrow... not sure.
just miss his voice =)
yea, so i was happy to hear his voice again ^^ heehee kindda sweet huh~
he was busy.... hummmm yea... i know... and i really miss him sooo much...

^^ thanks jesus for my nice days~
night night...

>>January 30, 2006 at 5:37:28 PM GMT+8