2009 年 8 月 10 日 星期一 【晴】

花花的病

讓我歸心似箭

奈何昨天又應承了一個新相識的女孩見面不好意思推

唯有告訴她我想早點回家吧.....


今天突然很 depress.........

>>August 11, 2009 at 9:44:59 AM GMT+8

2009 年 8 月 9 日 星期日 【晴】

轉到了 poledivas 學 pole

第一課
- hip circles (moon)
- body waves
- front hook

第二課
- hand and slide
- dirty angel
- yoga legs
- the fan
- demi

第三課
- long leg hook
- hand slide
- pyramid / peter pan

Groove Dance
- chair
- fireman

You Tube:
- Sun Wheel
- Madonna

同學教我的
- 左腳凹 'kiu' 著 pole, 右腳背頂著, swing

- tbc....

>>August 18, 2009 at 8:41:23 AM GMT+8

2009 年 8 月 8 日 星期六 【晴】

花花很可能患上肝癌

今天照超聲波有 2cm 大

唉.......

而且應該沒有醫治的方法

西醫不能

那便試自然療法吧!

死亡或是活著

最重要是希望她不要那麼痛苦

:(

>>August 11, 2009 at 9:36:03 AM GMT+8

2009 年 8 月 7 日 星期五 【晴】

在毫無心理準備的情況下

做了 laser 去班

希望傷口會埋得好一點吧!

未來兩三個星期都應該避免陽光

>>August 11, 2009 at 9:31:47 AM GMT+8

2009 年 8 月 6 日 星期四 【晴】

quoted from http://zencaroline.blogspot.com/2009_01_01_archive.html

Ending Unhealthy Friendships

Ending unhealthy friendships is difficult, but you have to know when it's time to say good-bye to a bad friend - for your own sake!

Drifting apart happens even when you were once very close friends: people move, life circumstances change, priorities are shifted, jobs lost or found…people simply change, and the friendship changes too. Sometimes you just lose touch and move on. Other times you end friendships on purpose, especially if they're weak or unhealthy friendships. When you're ending an unhealthy friendship, you decide to say good-bye for good and cut off all contact with bad friends. Whether it's deliberate or a matter of drifting away, ending friendships can be hard to do and to accept - even if your friend was bad or your friendship unhealthy.

Some friendships are weaker than others, which makes ending friendships easier. If they're not based on similarities or true connections, ending friendships seems inevitable. Unhealthy friendships may not last very long, especially if the common bonds aren't authentic. Several factors can masquerade as things in common: proximity (simply living or working near one another), common friends, partners who are friends, children who are friends, or loneliness. Other friendships start in one chapter of life, and don’t easily transfer into the next chapter, such as a friendship that began in while you were married to one person, and that ended after the divorce. Then, ending friendships may not be deliberate, but rather more natural.
Other friendships – or even bad family relationships – are deliberately shut down because they're unhealthy. Ending a friendship is a difficult, often painful decision (even with bad friends or weak friendships).

How to Know if Your Friendship is Unhealthy
You might consider ending a friendship if:

* You don’t feel respected, and your friend doesn’t seem to hear your concerns. For instance, they may be constantly late meeting you and then disregard your feelings. Or they borrow money and neglect to repay it, or borrow items and return them broken or not at all.
* You can’t speak your mind honestly, or can’t find space in the conversation to speak at all (healthy boundaries don't exist with bad friends).
* You leave your visits feeling depressed, frustrated, exhausted, depleted or angry. A friend should leave you feeling happy, content, connected, and hopeful. A bad friend makes you feel bad.
* Your friend behaves immorally, unethically, illegally, or in any way that runs counter to your beliefs and values.
* Your friend never makes the effort to call or visit you. You find yourself reaching out, with minimal success. Sometimes you don't even need to formally end a friendship with bad friends, it just happens naturally. Unhealthy friendships often die a natural death.
* You're friends with an energy vampire (a type of bad friend). Ending unhealthy friendships could protect your well-being.
* Unmet expectations. A huge part of any relationship is expectations. If you expect your friend to show up on time, and you’re kept waiting, then you’ll be disappointed. But -- this isn't necessarily a bad friend or unhealthy friendship. If you know you'll have to wait and even bring a book or your laptop, then you may not feel disrespected or frustrated. All friendships require concessions, exceptions and loving forgiveness -- and you get to decide if your friendship is worth it. The bottom line: ending friendships shouldn't be an automatic solution.
* Your unique perspective. Another aspect of all relationships is your view of the issues. Is tardiness a sign of a disrespectful or bad friend or simple disorganization? Is “immoral” behavior universally wrong (selling crystal meth to 12 year olds) or a matter of opinion (Christians shouldn’t drink wine)? Take an objective look at your friendship; do the benefits outweigh the negatives? If you're considering ending a friendship, consider the relationship as a whole.
When the quality of the friendship outweighs the perceived misdemeanors, then hold on to your friend – good ones are hard to find. But, if the friendship involves more struggle and frustration than connection and joy, then it may be time to say good-bye for good to a bad friend. Ending friendships can protect your health and well-being.

Energy Vampires Drain Your Positive Energy
Energy vampires deplete your positive energy like real vampires slurp blood. Energy vampires drain your positive energy, leaving you drained and listless. After a visit with an energy vampire, you barely have enough energy to watch tv - much pursue your goals or do your chores. Negative energy has consumed your positive energy.
Energy vampires drain positive energy in many ways, such as:

* Intruding on your life, ignoring boundaries and privacy (energy vampires don't think of you).
* Making big deals out of nothing. Energy vampires are often called "drama queens" because they can easily turn a broken nail into a Shakespearean tragedy. Negative energy spreads from everyday events.
* Complaining constantly about their partners, jobs, children, bad luck, and illnesses. Energy vampires like to vent.
* Criticizing your hair, appearance, job, children, partner, friends, and pets (energy vampires aren't positive).
* Not taking "no" for an answer. Energy vampires don't consider your needs.
* Being unrelentingly negative. Their negative energy is unrelentless, and energy vampires drain your positive energy by encouraging you to be negative, too.
* Blaming everyone else for their problems (energy vampires don't take responsibility).

Energy vampires drain energy:

* you feel depressed after a conversation
* You know you've spent time with an energy vampire when you leave feeling depressed, exhausted, or sad.
* Energy vampires drain your positive energy for their own use.
* Energy vampires leave you feeling empty and sluggish – and to compensate or build positive energy you may eat, drink, shop, or sleep for hours afterwards.
* Energy vampires have energy leaks: they need your positive energy
* Energy vampires come in all shapes and sizes: loud and aggressive, soft-spoken and shy, charming and seductive, pushy and overbearing.
* Energy vampires have energy leaks that they need to fill.
* It's up to you to stop energy vampires from draining your positive energy.
* Often energy vampires don't even realize they're bleeding you dry.
* Energy vampires have often suffered some sort of crisis, whether in childhood or adulthood, and they're compensating to get rid of their negative energy.
* Energy vampires may not be deliberately, maliciously stealing your positive energy -- but they're definitely not contributing to a fantastic relationship.
* They drain positive energy, but you can learn to stop energy vampires.

11 ways to stop energy vampires:

* Limit the amount of time you spend with energy vampires. The less time you're together, the less positive energy you'll lose.
* Learn effective ways to end conversations with energy vampires (eg, I only have ten minutes to talk.")
* Stay calm and detached from energy vampires. Don't let their negative energy consume you.
* Be honest about your needs (eg, "I need this time to work/read/relax/exercise.")
* Refrain from attempting to rescue them or fix an energy vampire's problems.
* Practice walking away from energy vampires.; the more you do it, the easier it gets.
* Limit eye contact with energy vampires.
* Avoid being in close spaces with energy vampires (elevators, cars, etc). Negative energy is catching.
* Define and guard your personal space from energy vampires.
* Tell energy vampires you feel uncomfortable discussing particular people or circumstances.
* Stand up for yourself and your boundaries! Your time, positive energy, and resources are precious and should be closely guarded from energy vampires.

>>August 6, 2009 at 9:47:38 AM GMT+8

2009 年 8 月 5 日 星期三 【晴】

今天是 '散修修' 的一篇日記


如果真的有所謂際遇的話

我的人生是充滿變化的

看相也該屬於比較難看到的一種

這代表我的人生可以有很多可能性

記得 tarot 老師說過

我這個人比較多 free will power

業力比較薄所以可以創造很多可能性

但到底我想創造些甚麼呢?

我不清楚

性格也就決定命運吧!

那我的性格又該適合做什麼工作呢?

不曉得

最近快將當 clinical psychologist 的 internship 朋友說可以試試幫助我找我的 career 方向

就試試看吧!

謝謝你呢

我知道你將來會收很貴的喔

:)



近來心情波動

經常發有關愛情或喜歡的人的夢

是 release 嗎?

昨天聽到針灸師傅問病人有沒有發夢

錢太也問我吃了藥後有沒有發夢

原來中醫也有談及夢的嗎?

很有趣喔!


好奇下找到這篇文章 (轉載自 http://www.17shoushen.cn/zhongyao/478.html )

中医：梦是身体有话要说

　　梦是生活中常见的现象，很多人喜欢把它跟吉凶祸福联系起来。我是学医的，对占卜之术不感爱好。我感爱好的是梦对健康的预兆意义，这在中国传统文化中早已有之，只不过往往被人们忽略。

　　在中国的传统文化中，梦被称做“五脏的附体”，能够反映脏器的虚实盛衰。《内经》对梦的健康预兆意义早有记载，翻译过来就是：假如肺气虚，就会梦见白色怪物，见人就杀；假如肾气虚，就会梦见船沉，人浮水中，心生惧怕；假如肝气虚，则会梦见草木阴森，人伏在树下不敢起来；假如心气虚，多会梦见被火烧灼；假如脾气虚，则会梦见吃不饱饭。再如《灵枢·淫邪发梦》：假如阴气盛，就会梦见在大水中惊恐逃窜；假如阳气盛，则会梦见大火烧身；假如阴阳都盛，则会梦见刀光之灾。假如上面气血过盛，则梦见翱翔；下面盛则梦见坠落。假如饥饿，就会梦见食物；假如吃太饱，就会梦见扔东西……可见，《内经》早已注重到了梦与疾病的定性、定位关系。

　　中医认为七情分属于五脏，怒为肝志，思为脾志，悲为肺志，恐为肾志。相应的，梦中的情绪也可以反映脏气的变化，梦怒为肝气盛，梦恐为肾气虚，梦哭为肺气虚，梦笑为心气盛，梦歌为脾气盛。

　　有一次和朋友聚餐，大家聊天正欢，其中一个朋友说，他昨晚上梦见自己对老婆大发脾气，醒了之后胸口跳得厉害。旁边有人说，日有所思夜有所梦，肯定是平时对老婆敢怒不敢言，只能在梦里发泄。我笑着问他：“最近是不是偶然有头晕的感觉？”他说没错。我说：“梦见发怒就是肝气盛，而且‘诸风掉眩，皆属于肝’，头晕和肝有关系，你肯定是肝火旺盛，要么就是过度疲惫了，应该调养一下肝。”他赶紧抢话：“你说的什么风、什么眩，我不太明白，这说明肝不好，我倒是信。那你说怎么办吧！”我说：“听我的是吧？行，那就约法三章。首先，生活上，别给自己施压，保持心平气和；晚上睡足觉，养血保肝；再就是吃点舒肝理气丸，保好。”后来再见面，我问他怎么样了，他哈哈一乐：“你这是叫我道谢吧，好了，好了。听你的准没错。”

轉載自 http://medicine.people.com.cn/BIG5/9189062.html

夢為魂魄飛揚

　　關於做夢，中醫的理論認為是魂魄飛揚。中醫強調，人體的五臟皆有神明，那麼魂和魄各是哪個臟器的神明呢？魂是肝的神明，魄是肺的神明。

　　人在睡眠中，不同的時間段由不同的經脈所主。夜裡11時是膽經當令開始睡覺，凌晨1時到3時是肝魂所主，凌晨3時到5時是肺神所主。所以在這個時間段做夢，屬於魂魄收斂不住的象。肝魂跟理智相關，肺魄跟本能相關。那麼人在3時之前做的夢是跟肝魂有關，也就是跟理性有關﹔3時后做的夢跟肺魄有關，也就是跟人的本能有關。

　　西方社會對夢也有研究，比如弗洛伊德精神分析學說就非常注重夢的問題，他認為，所有的夢都是潛意識心理的曲折或象征的表現方式。比如夢到水了，可能就跟出生有關﹔夢見大樹可能跟性有關﹔夢見去旅行，可能跟死亡的觀念有關。弗洛伊德的學說中，認為人有兩個最基本的本能：一個是死本能，另一個是性本能。所以他的意象分析(關於夢境的分析)基本上都是從這兩個角度去分析的。

　　夢象

　　中醫關於夢的理解與弗洛伊德有很大差異。比如說同樣夢見水，中醫認為，是因為人的陰氣過盛所導致，這類夢一般比較恐怖。人體的臟器中腎主恐，在五行裡，腎所匹配的五行又是水，所以夢見水或者夢見很恐怖的事情，是陰氣過盛。如果陽氣過盛的話，就會夢見大火燔灼，比如發高燒之前有的人會做夢夢見自己家的房子著火了，這其實跟陽氣浮越在外有關。

　　《黃帝內經·靈樞》“淫邪發夢篇”中專門記述了古人對夢境的各種理解。如人體裡要是陰陽之氣都很盛的話，就會夢見互相?殺﹔要是肺氣特別實的話，就會夢見使用金屬兵器進行?殺，因為肺按五行的配屬是屬金的﹔如果上面的氣特別盛的話，會夢見飛翔，經常夢見飛翔的人，一般性格特點是比較追求完美的那種，對萬事萬物都有一種追求完美的心理，他們的氣總是調在上頭下不去，就會總夢見自己飛翔﹔而對於另外一些人，他們的氣總是沉在下面上不來，這類人做夢就愛夢見自己墜落深淵。

　　如果你特別餓，做夢就會夢見別人給你東西﹔反之，如果你特別飽的話，就老夢見你給別人東西。

　　在《黃帝內經》“陰陽應象大論”裡，專門把人體的五臟和五聲、五志、五色全都配屬了。

　　(1)五聲 五臟與五聲對應為：肝呼、心笑、脾歌、肺哭、腎呻。

　　(2)五志 五臟與五志對應為：肝主怒、心主喜、脾主思、肺主憂、腎主恐。

　　(3)五色 五臟與五色對應為：肝主蒼色、心主赤色、脾主黃色、肺主白色、腎主黑色。

　　總而言之，人體的氣血水平或者五臟的問題導致人會做什麼樣的夢。通過學習中醫就會對不同夢象的成因有所了解，也就可以順利推測出自己的身體狀況，便於預防和醫治疾病。'



朋友 facebook 說 ' No emotion is negative. Anger, aggression, hatred, jealousy, loneliness, sadness, fear, anxiety....are not negative. Only when you see them as negative, and when you try to repress them, the emotions take control over you. When you embrace your 'negative' emotions, you become whole. And being whole is healing is holy.'

對呢

let me embrace my emotions,

whatever it is

謝謝朋友 a 的 reminder

>>August 6, 2009 at 9:28:42 AM GMT+8

2009 年 8 月 4 日 星期二 【晴】

今天你突然向我表白

說 into me.....

問我是否 into you.....

我搞不清楚你是真的還是玩的

但直覺覺得你的言語跟行為不符

也 feel 不到那 heart

是真是假

time will tell i guess

謝謝時間

還有 action

也謝謝你對我的好感

:)

>>August 5, 2009 at 3:53:32 AM GMT+8

2009 年 8 月 3 日 星期一 【晴】

最近 loose 了 control

雖然他的 behaviour 充滿 doubts

我也因此感到懊惱這 emotion

但其實也不需要被這懊惱情緒影響我的 action

變得sensitive n reacts

學習 remain calm in action

even i am boiling emotionally

相對地分體

當下面對懊惱很難不 react

但如果專注在因懊惱而產生的身體感受

該會比較容易從另一個角度去面對這情緒

然後一方面觀察身體感受

另一方面再作出理性的行動

一個很好的 exercise

謝謝 g

繼續努力

:)


quoted from Mimi Tanner

"...don't let your emotions control the way you act - it's just that simple (or that hard)!...No one likes to get upset. What helps me personally is to try to mentally separate myself from my feelings. I can recognize that feeling the feelings is one thing, and the decision of what to do is another. particularly during the "courting" or "attraction" period, your ability to stay calm and conduct yourself with grace is crucial."

>>August 4, 2009 at 7:42:27 AM GMT+8

2009 年 8 月 2 日 星期日 【晴】

昨天去了放風箏乘單車

沒有風

風箏飛不起來

乘單車從大埔到大圍

再去晚飯

很高興

認識了 l 及他的朋友學生

蠻愉快的一個晚上

謝謝 l 把單車踏回家給我

36 分鐘從大圍到大埔

好快喔!

>>August 3, 2009 at 2:21:56 AM GMT+8

2009 年 8 月 1 日 星期六 【晴】

今早收到 Godwin's quote

非常好的 timing

i really need this

thanks Godwin n his fellow students

"Godwin's quote - Reactive Mind and Non-Reactive Mind

If we can really learn to be open, learning to be open to both the reactive mind and the non reactive mind and see the difference between the two, that can be considered something very important.

As I often emphasize the importance of being human, I like to suggest that as we are still human, there are moments when we like, when we dislike, reactions can be there. So here again I would suggest that if you are reacting, just to realize that you are reacting and then to find out, in your own experience, when you are liking something, when you are holding on to it, how it creates suffering for yourself. And when you are resisting something, when you are disliking something, how it again creates suffering. So again from our reactions, from a reactive mind, we can also learn.

When we are reacting, just know that you are reacting, to make that as a learning experience and learning not to react to that. And when you are not reacting, just know that you are not reacting and see for yourself the results, the benefits of it. So that if we can really learn to be open, learning to be open to both the reactive mind and the non reactive mind and see the difference between the two, that can be considered something very important.

(Source: Talk on October 10, 1998 in Hong Kong)"

觀察著自己不滿自己的情緒

不值自己為何會喜歡一個素未謀面的人

看不起自己為何放極也放不低

看著這個 reactive mind

昨天還 react to the verbal level

謝謝他提醒我 calm down

也謝謝 g 這個 email

來得正好

我想我的 equanimity 還有待 develop

現在的我對自己還不夠友善

當外在環境不如自己所願

以及自己不能達到自己的要求時

便會 'meng zeng' 自己

不滿自己為何放不下

不滿自己為何想做卻又 physically 做不到

繼而產生極負面的情緒

然後又受不了這負面情緒

所以變得很 imbalance


:)

繼續努力

not suppress

not react

just observe it

i might still fail

it isn't easy

but i do believe this is the way out


keep trying

:P

>>August 2, 2009 at 2:33:34 AM GMT+8