"How do you figure out whether a guy likes you or if he's
wasting your time?
You ask yourself, "Do his words match his actions?"
That's it.
If he's flirting with you but not making plans to get together,
his actions do not match his words.
If he's telling you his life story on the phone but is
too busy to get together, his actions do not match his words.
If he's got a girlfriend (or a wife!) in the background,
you know his actions don't match his words.
If he tells you he likes you, but he's never around, his
actions don't match his words.
So he might not really like you (don't fret; he's not the only
pebble on the beach). Or he might like you but not
enough to change his lifestyle to include a girlfriend. Or
he might be shy. But guess what?
None of this is your problem. He is not to be taken seriously, and
it's a good thing you figured it out now.
Men who like you let you know it! You do not need to wonder! (And,
yes, there is a man out there who is looking for a woman like you,
who will 'get' you, and love you. Don't tell yourself otherwise.)
Quick story: Recently divorced attractive friend of mine caught the
attention of a guy who makes a beeline for her whenever he sees her
in our favorite coffee shop (and when he sees me, he makes a beeline
and asks, "Is your friend here?").
This has been going on for a while. My friend thinks he's cute, but
he hasn't asked her out. Hasn't asked for her number. Hey, maybe
he's shy. Maybe he's whatever.
We ran into him again last week. He made a beeline. They chatted.
They laughed. He still didn't ask her to get together, and she told
me, "I've been friendly enough. If he wants to go out, he's going
to have to ask me. I refuse to ask him."
Well, guess what. He didn't ask her out. But the very next night,
she met another guy over dinner with mutual friends. HE asked her out.
They went out on Monday (she had plans on Saturday). He likes her (so far, his
words are definitely matching his actions). What's more, her friends know him
well and like him). Best of all, SHE LIKES HIM!
So much for the guy in the coffee shop.
Now, will my friend live happily ever after with the new guy?
Who knows? It's just been one date, but they're off to a good start.
And she didn't waste time pinning her hopes on some guy who's
probably never going to come through.
You deserve a man whose words match his actions. A man who loves
you and never lets you forget it. God didn't put you on the planet
to "crack" some man's "code." You're not here to read some man's
mind!
Hold out for a guy whose words match his actions. You deserve him."
>>June 12, 2009 at 3:10:25 AM GMT+8
2009 年 6 月 10 日 星期三 【晴】
今天去 interview 和筆試
前所未有 in 得這樣差.......
看來和這份工沒緣了.....
到底會去哪裡呢?
謝謝 sp 的鼓勵
你這麼 sweet
我會好驚的....
1 消失了
是永遠的消失嗎?
有點迷惘.......
知道該好好整頓自己
卻又提不起勁來.........
不如 weekend 又換換床位好嗎?
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今天 pole dance 第一課
很好玩喔!
某部份跟 free trial overlap
學了兩個新動作
舊動作
1) 右手拿 pole, 不要拿得太緊, 右腳先行, 左手拿 pole, 左腳先行, 向 pole 方向轉身, 轉手拿 pole, 繼續行, point 腳, 提腳根
2) 右手拿 pole, step 右腳, 向 pole 內轉, 左手扶 Pole, 放左手, 右腳 Point 腳繼續行
3) 雙手拿 Pole, 約和 shoulder 成 90 度角, 上腹扶在 pole 上, 吸氣, 雙腳 point toe 提起, 不向下滑
4) 雙手拿 Pole, 約和 shoulder 成 90 度角, 上腹扶在 pole 上, 吸氣, 雙腳 point toe 提起, 向下滑至離地2吋, 跪在地上, 起上身, 右腳 forward over 90 度, 左後腳伸直 point toe, 拉左腳到右腳旁, 起身
新動作
1) Swing
右手扶 Pole, 右步, 左步, 右步, 左腳 jump n fig 然後 click 在pole 上, 左手輕輕扶 pole, 轉至地下, 後躺, point 腳, 踏單車然後把腳自然踏出, 轉身面向地下, kick 遠離 Pole 的腳, child post, 扶 Pole, 起上身, 右腳 forward over 90 度, 左後腳伸直 point toe, 拉左腳到右腳旁, 起身
右手扶 pole, 行, 向 Pole 轉身, 轉左手扶 Pole, 行,向 Pole 轉身, 轉右手扶 Pole, 行, 左腳 jump n click, 左手輕扶
pole, swing n down, cycle 腳把雙腳自然 cycle 出, 轉身面向地下, kick 遠離 Pole 的腳, child post, 扶 Pole, 起上身, 右腳 forward over 90 度, 左後腳伸直 point toe, 拉左腳到右腳旁, 起身 ---> 右手扶 Pole, 右步, 左步, 右步, 'fig' 左腳時候, 雙腳離地成 90 度 chair, 左手於 chest level 扶 pole, swing, 留意降落時間, 雙腳同時踏地
>>June 12, 2009 at 3:46:52 AM GMT+8
2009 年 6 月 9 日 星期二 【晴】
今早去了 job interview
那位女的很 elegant
很有氣質
無論結果怎樣
也是一個很好的練習機會
謝謝妳呢 :)
personal assistant
一直是我跟 net friend 說的工作
會變成真的嗎?
another new field?
let's see......
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really enjoyed the subscription of Pravs World.com
here is another nice piece to share
quoted foom Pravs World newsletter
"Don't Change the World
Once upon a time, there was a king who ruled a prosperous country.
One day, he went for a trip to some distant areas of his country. When he was back to his palace, he complained that his feet were very painful, because it was the first time that he went for such a long trip, and the road that he went through was very rough and stony.
He then ordered his people to cover every road of the entire country with leather. Definitely, this would need thousands of cows' skin, and would cost a huge amount of money.
Then one of his wise servant dared himself to tell the king, "Why do you have to spend that unnecessary amount of money ? Why don't you just cut a little piece of leather to cover your feet?"
The king was surprised, but he later agreed to his suggestion, to make a "shoe" for himself.
There is actually a valuable lesson of life in this story : to make this world a happy place to live, you better change yourself - your heart; and not the world."
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quoted from Terry MacDonald
"Somerset Maugham said:
"It is funny about life: if you refuse to accept
anything but the very best you will very often get it."
This is the truth. If you've been accepting bad behavior from men,
please stop. After a while, you'll find you attract better men."
>>June 10, 2009 at 4:38:06 AM GMT+8
2009 年 6 月 8 日 星期一 【晴】
從來沒有認識過一個喜歡喝酒到這地步的人
一個 drunk talk 的人
真的要些時間適應
近朱者赤, 近墨者黑
是真的嗎?
前幾天 k 提我要 "stop thinking of others, of the significant others, and think of myselfs and the rest will follow."
碰巧今天 pravs J 又是說 "focus yourself"
wht a coincidence
quoted from pravs talk
" Focus On Yourself
Some of us waste our time waiting for people to live up to our expectations.
We are so concerned about what others are doing that we don’t do anything ourselves.
Its not so important what others are upto; compared to what you are doing.
Focus on what you do, your work; Not on others."
對呢
我的心神最近都專注在這個 1 的行為
當他的行為不符合我的 expectation 時
我便不開心發顛
完全迷失了自己
1 說得對
他要 reconnect to himself
而我也應該要
這才對雙方健康
>>June 9, 2009 at 4:39:54 AM GMT+8
2009 年 6 月 7 日 星期日 【晴】
sim lesbian 可以結婚了
quoted from Mirabelle Summers's Newsletter
Using A Positive Outlook To Your Advantage...
"It's a plain truth that no one likes a woman playing the "passive
VICTIM" act on a constant basis. This doesn't only have to do with
being attractive to men, but to the other parts of your life as
well.
When you come face-to-face with a potential Mr. Right, do you think
he'll feel the irresistible urge to sweep you off your feet if you
have the habit of always blaming EVERYONE but yourself for the
sick, sad, little world you live in??
Even a woman who wields a considerable amount of power in the other
fields of their life can be guilty of this way of thinking.
Let's say you're a high-ranking corporate executive working in a
large company. Now, let's pretend that you met this cute freelance
photographer through some mutual friends.
Said guy seems to be a perfectly decent man whom you quickly
develop feelings for. Thanks to your busy social calendar, you get
plenty of chances to run into him on account of the common events
that your circle of friends attend.
After some time, you've had lots of opportunities to communicate
back and forth. By now, you're pretty sure that you've got a thing
going on, but you're puzzled why he hasn't asked you out yet.
You rationalize by assuming he's never really dated a lot of women
who are as aggressively confident and go-getting as you. "Yeah,
that's probably it", you tell yourself.
The next time you meet, you take it upon yourself to work up the
nerve and ask him out. However, your invitation to "have dinner at
that new Italian restaurant that just opened" was politely TURNED
DOWN. He says that he doesn't want to complicate the friendship he
has with you by taking it any further.
So now feelings of being unwanted have overtaken your thoughts, and
you just can't seem to get over the bad taste of rejection. Before
you realize what's going on, your sense of embarrassment turns into
bitter disappointment...and worse, hostility.
How could he make you believe that there were sparks flying between
you two...and reject you afterwards? "Typical guy", you mutter to
your friends.
Then your friends try comforting you by saying, "Some guys are just
intimidated by women of high stature." "He probably couldn't take
it that you're more successful than he is, so he chickened out!"
Thanks to that little "pep talk", you conclude that men are so
immature and pig-headed that they can't appreciate a perfectly good
woman standing right in front of them.
But here's the rub: you didn't get rejected because of your
powerful social status. He turned down your invitation because he
just DIDN'T feel enough ATTRACTION to go out with you.
End of story.
Don't go and make a bigger issue out of something as clear-cut as
this. There's nothing beyond the fact that there was too little
irresistibility to go around.
There's no reason to make such harsh, sweeping statements against
men. It's unfair to pigeonhole the male species into that "dumb,
heartless jerk" category.
(Granted that quite a few men fit that title perfectly, it's still
not right to stereotype ALL of them...)
If you would take a few moments to be aware of the BIASES that are
coloring your views, then you'd realize that changing some
misconceptions will improve your life BIG TIME!
What can you take away from this fictional (but quite relevant)
scenario?
First of all, being a helpless victim when the going gets tough is
NOT ATTRACTIVE. No one likes it when you endlessly whine about how
the external factors around you are wrecking your love life.
Look, I know it's tough to run into bad luck in the dating scene,
but don't assume that you can't do anything about it! This sort of
thinking is just a defensive mechanism to make reality more
palatable.
I used to do it myself. But I came to realize that making excuses
just doesn't cut it.
I'm not saying though that you're not good enough. That's NOT the
point I'm making at all.
Rather, I'm urging you to take responsibility for your life and
control the factors which you can use to your advantage. What I'm
referring to in particular, is your ability to FIND THE MEANS to
become more attractive.
It's well within your power to learn how to develop the best
aspects of your personality. YOU are the only person in your life
that can directly influence the amount of success that you have
right now.
If you're content with just allowing things to happen to you and
NOT lift a finger, then you're destined to a continuous cycle of
mediocrity. I'm sure that isn't what you want for yourself.
So instead of being bitter and resentful, redirect all that
negative energy somewhere else. Rather than blaming the world for
your setbacks, use them as a POSITIVE learning experience and learn
how not to repeat it.
Basically, the issue boils down to the fact that you can always do
something to the best of your abilities to change the outcome of a
situation. You are NOT a HELPLESS woman who should just surrender
to whatever life throws at you.
You can't possibly create a stable, lasting relationship if you're
already concluding defeat in your mind. Making self-fulfilling
prophecies will keep you from achieving your best.
If you are operating on a set of negatively prepackaged beliefs
about men (i.e. they're immature), it's nigh impossible to be truly
happy in their company, let alone respect them.
Once you start believing this lie, everything else will follow.
Soon, you'll assume that you'll never land a quality man or that
you aren't meant to end up in a functional relationship.
My advice to you is to nip those self-defeating beliefs in the bud
before they lead to think that you can never hope to be attractive
to men!
Let me get you pumped with some positive realities that will
motivate you to learn more about being attractive:
* Not all of the quality men are taken. There are millions of
great, single guys out there who are just dying to know you. All
you need is the right mindset to get them hovering in your
direction.
* Instead of accusing men of being too short-sighted to appreciate
you, be PRO-ACTIVE by learning about the basics of ATTRACTION.
* Excuses in your life ("I'm not pretty/sexy/smart/rich enough to
impress men") will only hold you back if you want to.
What you need is the initiative to improve what you can. The
remedy in this case is to GAIN the SKILLS needed to become
irresistible to men.
Instead of telling yourself "Boy, that's a LOT of work", just think
that YOU have the power to turn around your current situation.
That's a much better alternative to simply standing aside and
watching your life pass you by."
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