"Everywhere, we see advertisements for products that promise to make
us more attractive, sexier, and more appealing to men. If we just
buy clothing from that store, or wear that brand of makeup, or
spray on this perfume, we'll find that men will be irresistibly
attractive to us.
Advertisers play on our natural insecurities about our appearance
to promise what they can't perform. They want us to believe that
the only thing holding us back from being the most sexy, alluring,
enticing women we can be ... is our looks.
Believing advertisers can be dangerous to your health AND to your
love life. If you think that your looks are the only thing keeping
you from meeting the man of your dreams, then you're making an
excuse for yourself.
Attraction involves many other factors, like personality,
compatibility, familiarity, and chemistry. In fact, the single
most positive factor for predicting attraction is how similar you
are to the other person. Although opposites may attract in the
beginning, ultimately how similar you are to the other person will
determine your compatibility as partners.
THE VALUE OF APPEARANCES
Looks do matter some of the time. Studies show that men are more
concerned about the appearance of their potential partner than
women are. Compared with men, women are more concerned with the
financial and social status of their partners.
People often look for a partner on the same scale of attractiveness
as they are. That means that if you want a hot babe escorting you
to the party, you'd better be hot yourself. Social scientists have
found that the people to whom looks matter most are good-looking
men. It makes sense: if you're good-looking, you want a partner
who's just as good-looking or better-looking than you are.
If you're a person who enjoys looking nice but doesn't get that
fussed about her appearance, then it may be more stressful than
it's worth to date that guy who looks like a Hollywood celebrity.
He may expect you to wear the perfect shoes to match your outfit,
color-coordinate your eye makeup and accessories, or wear an outfit
that complements his own wardrobe when you're on his arm.
Men have told me that this reason alone is why they don't enjoy
dating women who look like models. Sure, it's fabulous to see the
heads turn when you walk into a room with a stunning partner on
your arm, but, for some men, the insecurity of their partners left
them frustrated. "She always had to look good," Jeremy, 24, told
me. "She was always asking me how she looked. It was, like, if
she didn't have her looks, she didn't have anything. Now I'd
rather date an ordinary-looking girl who doesn't mind getting
mussed and attracts guys with her personality instead."
Women who turn heads also have to deal with the constant suspicion
that a guy is with them because he wants the status that having an
attractive partner will convey--not because he's really into her as
a person. If you want a guy to like you for more reasons than your
looks, then it's good to be average!
F0RGET ABOUT LOOKS: IT'S SEXINESS THAT MATTERS
Too many women focus on how they look in the mirror rather than how
they come across to people. If you don't like what the mirror
shows you, then ask some of your friends how you come across. I
know many average girls who would look plain to a camera but manage
to snag guys with a crook of their finger because they exude
sexiness.
Being sexy isn't a matter of having the perfect nose, alabaster
skin, and long skinny legs. Sexy women can have strong, quirky
features, like a unique mole, scar, or unusually shaped mouth.
They can have ample curves, dark skin, and come in any shape and
size. What distinguishes sexy women from ordinary women is that
they know the power of their own femininity and use it.
A sexy woman is in touch with her body. She loves her body and
loves using it to taste, touch, sense, and explore her world. She
smiles often and moves to an internal rhythm. She invites men into
her world and breaks down the barriers of touch. Men feel more
manly when they are around her, as if she brings out what is best
in them.
If you are uncomfortable with yourself, hate your body, and sit
glumly rather than strutting your stuff, you may think that it's
your looks that's the problem. If only you were born with a
different body, different hair, or different nose, you'd be the
sexy woman that guys stare at. You'd be wrong.
You can be that woman right now. And the best part is that you
don't have to change anything about your natural looks to do it.
LOVE THE BODY YOU'RE IN
Do you cover yourself up when you're in bed? Do you feel
uncomfortable naked? Do you start to panic when you feel a guy
looking at you?
If so, you're not taking advantage of your own natural sexiness.
Take the first step towards loving your body today by treating it
with love. Pamper yourself with lotions and luxurious baths. Get
a facial or splurge on an expensive moisturizer. Shave or wax your
legs, and keep your hair soft and trimmed. Paint your toenails.
Wear a pretty bangle. Be healthy by eating well, drinking lots of
water, and exercising. If you love your own body and care for it,
you will exude the confidence of a woman who is comfortable in
herself.
Second, you need to understand that men are visual creatures. They
love ogling women. Let them. The next time a man gives you a wolf
whistle, walk a bit taller. Enjoy the attention. Don't flinch and
look away the next time you catch a man looking at you. If he's
attractive, give him a slow, seductive smile back.
Dress in a way that gives a man something to look at. Don't be
afraid of a little cleavage, or showing a little leg. If you love
your body, feel good about showing it off. Embrace your curves;
embrace your imperfections.
Lastly, the most important way to exude your own natural sexiness
is to get in touch with your senses. Although we tend to use the
word "sexy" as synonymous with "attractive," it's not. A woman who
is sexy is a woman who arouses a man's sexual desire. If you love
sex and enjoy touching and being touched, you'll find that your own
sexiness will increase enormously. Women who aren't afraid to
touch themselves, to risk their emotions with a kiss, or to give a
stranger a hug, give off an aura of sexiness that no attractive ice
queen can match."
>>August 17, 2009 at 7:04:00 AM GMT+8
2009 年 8 月 14 日 星期五 【晴】
好想捐款到台灣
但卻沒有誠意跑到銀行
快點有些捐款活動啦!!!!
今天去澳門看 lady gaga's concert
我跟 e 及她的朋友
一行八人
我們一部份乘較早的船
去了午飯及賭場
concert 票上說八時開始
終於九點七才開始
唱了一個小時
但非常非常非常的好看
跳到巔咗
concert 後去了 after concert 的 summer pool side party
起初 security guard 說不能下水
後來看到池邊有幾個人下了水
我跟 a 也下水去了
之後我們把餘下的朋友拉進水裡
大家也玩得非常開心呢! (除了 d, 下次一定也把你抱下水去 :P)
臨走我跟 a 更游起泳來
我們沒有泳衣
穿著正常衣服游泳
好高漲喔!
我們乘一點船回港
然後到 lkf 翠華霄夜
真的很開心
回家收音機又傳來 mj 的 billy jean
我邊落妝邊跳舞
洗澡下床已是五時半
仍然很開心興奮
謝謝 e
你的朋友很好玩喔!
a very nice group :)
xoxoxo
>>August 17, 2009 at 4:06:12 PM GMT+8
2009 年 8 月 13 日 星期四 【晴】
最近似乎發生了很多事
被解僱啦
工作不知道該去哪方向
貓貓哮喘及肝內發現 2 cm 有多的腫瘤
大姑婆過身
朋友母親過身
朋友發現 cancer
朋友不忠
朋友離婚
發現喜歡的 net friend 該是 pk (as expected....just to verify)
愛情空白
等等等等
朋友 send 了 the secret 的電影版片段給我看
作者也是在所有東西都很 pk 時發現自己的方向
讓我也好像突然想 pursue 自然療法
成為醫治人們身心靈的治療師
這個想法潛伏了好一段日子
現在成熟了嗎?
不知道........
我相信
時間會把一幕幕的 curtain 掀開
既然心急不來
叫自己不要心急她也不會聽
那不如好好跟她同在
好吧
恐懼心急缺乏自信迷惘
讓我學著跟你們做個好朋友
^_^
好
想想好的事情
收到禪修之友
買了一條很喜歡的裙
黑眼圈淡了一點點
relatively feminine 了
衣櫃多了有顏色的衣服
自信心好像比前多了一點點
心底有時候會突然覺得很快樂
覺得一個完結是一個新的開始
給我機會好好再作出選擇
很多時候也會感恩which 以前是不會的
快將成為心理學家的朋友 n 給我做了一個很詳盡的 career counselling 並找出了我的 strength
- need time alone to center themselves, and make sure they are moving in a direction which is in sync with their values.
- great people skills
- strong need to be liked
- sometimes make serious errors in judgement
- become unhappy when tehy are confined to strict schedules or mundane tasks
- resist being controlled or labelled
- maintain control over themselves, but they do not believe in controlling others
- initiators of change who are keenly perceptive of possibilites
- prefer start-up phase of a project or relationship, but not good to follow-through
- tireless in the pursuit of new-found interests
- able to anticipate the needs of others and to offer them needed help and appreciation
- resist repeating experience
- resist the notion of others becoming dependent or having power over them, their charisma draws followers who wish to be shown the way
Living:
- into everyting
- use their energy for new and different ways of developing things
- hate to be boxed into a career for life
- unwise for ENFP to settle down too early
- make the soundest choices when they delay career and marriage decisions
- often when a decision is made, ENFP's will still leave a number of options open or change their minds as they encounter new information.
- often search for the new and the novel. If there is a logical route to work, they will try to look for other routes.
- young-in-spirit as they age
- if ENFP's become disabled or experience a lack of resources, such as money, they may become despondent because this restricts their ability to quest after new experiences.
Learning:
- learn best through a variety of means, such as observing, reading, and listening to and interacting with others
-A motto that might describe the ENFP as a learner is "There's always another way or another answer"
Working:
- when they are committed to what they do, they are enthusiastic to the point of preaching to the entire world about it
- work must be fun and must contribute to something largerthan merely collecting a paycheck
- work environment that is both physically and mentally colorful
- prefer a collegial atmostphere in which employees are included in the decision making
- a job that offer variety, novelty, challenge, and freedom from tight supervision, idea oriented and imaginative, use their creativitiy and insight.
- Most ENFP will say they are organized but other's might not see them that way
- often late for deadline
- help people see the possibilities beyond themselves and their current realities. ENFP's function is a catalysts.
- challenge insitutional procedures and policies
- variety in day-to-day operations and interactions best suits ENFP
Leisure:
- ENFPs often have a difficult time separating their work from their leisure
- rare for ENFPs to become heavily involved in a single activity
- like travel and reading
- might invite others to join them at plays and activities
Loving
- tends to idealize his or her current relationship
- they may either overcommit and ignore any unpleasant yet tru facts, or they may undercommit, believing that there may be a better love 'just around the corner'
- when they fall out of love, they rebound quickly
- over generalize about their partner's worst faults
Mate:
- ISTJ
- INTJ
Home:
- unpredictable in handling their children, shifting from a role of friend-in-need-rescuer to stern authority figure
- independent actions regarding money on the part of an ENFP's mate are not ordinarily welcomed, might return purchase
- generally in chrage of the home
- a conflict free home is desired
- when ENFP is incharge of economic resources, their home may contain extravagant luxuries while necessities may be missing
Midlife:
- need to give particular attention to their physcial health to release their muscular tension
- need to relax n turn to recreational activities such as travel, phsycail relaxing activities
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