Nothing is nicer than having some who appreciates you in the smallest things. Accepts you in times of hardship. Comforts you when you’re troubled, loves you no matter what and is simply happy for having you in their life.
但我知道咁講又俾人話我唔appreciate 人地幫助
又會被話我有問題
解釋自己只會惹來更多麻煩
因為人地只會不斷抹殺努力
我也受夠了
唔好咁蠢向人open
冇人會欣賞你的勇氣
因為所謂的勇氣只會為你自己帶來更多的傷害
Protect your energy
Let them judge and misunderstand
這個事實你要接受
A teacher friend of mine tells me it can be really hard getting through to a student that they’re studying the wrong subject if they want good grades - this subject just isn’t their forte and they’re not going to do well in it. Sometimes, she tells me, she has to be quite brutal just to get them to listen to what she’s saying.
The fact is that people are programmed to pick out the things that they want to hear, and ignore the things they don’t - programmed to such a degree they’re unaware they’re doing it. But if you want to get people on your side, and get their co-operation, you need to understand that if they don’t want to hear something, it will take a lot more effort from you to get your point across.
It’s human nature - no use getting frustrated by it. You just need to take it into account. Whether you’re telling your boss that the report you’re working on can’t be completed to their deadline, or telling your sister that you can’t all go on holiday together as one huge family, have your antennae tuned to whether they’ve really taken on board what you’re saying. If you suspect they haven’t - if they’re arguing with the facts, or still talking just as they were before you put them straight - explain it more clearly (“The next data drop isn’t until the twenty-second of the month, which means we cant start crunching the numbers until then”) and, if they still don’t seem convinced, ask them questions (“Can we guesstimate the figures so we don’t need the latest data?”). Questions will force them to think about the problem, so it makes them engage with the problem they’re sidestepping.
And why don’t they want to hear it anyway? Does it make extra work for them? Or will they have to break unpleasant news to some else? Or it means they can’t have the outcome they wanted? Or it messes up their plans? Or it involves change and they don’t like change? If you can identify their mental block, it’s obviously going to make it easier to overcome. At the very least, it will help get your point across: “I know it feels as if we’re letting Mum down, but we simply can’t afford a holiday this year.”
Oh, and before you ask, yes, this does apply to you as well. You hear what you want to hear too. Never hurts to be aware of it.
>>November 29, 2018 at 2:14:05 PM GMT+8
2018 年 11 月 24 日 星期六 【颳風】
No one cares until it’s too late
Ohhhhh I am not taking my own responsibility AGAIN
>>November 24, 2018 at 10:59:36 PM GMT+8
2018 年 11 月 22 日 星期四 【颳風】
oh..i forgot again there is no WE..and there is no need to help each other to evolve into the best versions of ourselves
發了一個很開心的夢
一個人討厭你，會連你的優點都討厭；一個人喜歡你，會連你的缺點都喜歡。面對不喜歡你的人，你愈是一副急著討好對方的樣子，他愈覺得你下賤，愈看不起你。怎麼做都是沒用，因為討好不喜歡你的人，只會令對方更討厭你。
好耐冇同人講過野
自己的都丟空了,你的也封塵.
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