Embrace empathy and validation. We live in a society where empathy is often doled out competitively—we can feel bad for a person as long as their circumstances are the worst we’ve heard today, we can appreciate a struggle as long we didn’t easily overcome something similar. In reality, empathy and validation weren’t designed to work this way. Empathy sounds more like, “I don’t know how to help you, but I’m sorry you’re hurting,” and less like, “I know you’re having a hard time but it could be worse, at least you have a roof over your head.” When we empathise with the people in our lives without needing to hold their circumstances up against ours or anyone else’s, we lessen the chance that our loved ones feel alone in their pain and we strengthen the chance that they’ll be vulnerable enough to reach out to us in their times of need.
Validation is simply the acknowledgement that a person has a feeling, even if we don’t agree that it’s an appropriate feeling to have or the response we would have in similar circumstances; validation sounds like, “I understand that you’re angry right now, that must be difficult.” Allowing our loved ones to see that we acknowledge what they’re feeling can give them freedom to accept that feeling and move on.
>>September 9, 2019 at 4:59:51 AM GMT+8
2019 年 9 月 4 日 星期三 【雷雨】
Will it burn just for me?
Shine down
Till I find my way to you
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Never change for the sake of change
Those who are true will always love you for who you are
>>September 9, 2019 at 5:02:49 AM GMT+8
2019 年 9 月 1 日 星期日 【陰】
oh..ok..
>>September 2, 2019 at 3:19:18 PM GMT+8
2019 年 8 月 30 日 星期五 【陰】
>>August 31, 2019 at 6:51:37 AM GMT+8
2019 年 8 月 26 日 星期一 【酷熱】
點解人可以變得咁狠心冷血..
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>>August 27, 2019 at 5:17:52 PM GMT+8
2019 年 8 月 24 日 星期六 【炎熱】
Hi God
I’m trying my best at my own pace ..
I do not know who is stronger ..
he for letting go..
Or me for holding still ..
I wonder if I am really difficult to love?.....
I am waiting patiently ..
I am fighting for the right treatment ..
And I am still hanging in there when there is no hope ..
So if you could..please leave me alone and test someone who is meant to be “normal” and stronger
Thank you
>>August 26, 2019 at 12:12:17 AM GMT+8
2019 年 8 月 20 日 星期二 【微雨】
Those of us who are silent about pushing back against the dark, no recognition and no applause ready in reaching towards the light, you deserve to be proud for yourself, even if no one else see the battle you fight.
Im sorry they failed you ..
自己的都丟空了,你的也封塵.
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