2006 年 12 月 13 日 星期三 【晴】

晚上　三個男兒　

西環　街道　電車　宜記　ＯＫ

社工　港大　社工系　ＳＷＳＡＳ　ＦＳ　期待　男仔們　各人　有心　無心　真心　感染　友誼　面具

Value　Theory　Practice

入Ｕ　O Camp　碰面　衝擊　見識　人事　無奈　不爭　睇人　一個ＳＥＭ　學野　成長

歷奇　"Yes, Sure"　ABC Camp　High Event　ABC組　相逢　改變　尋獲　同行者　支持　鼓勵　欣賞　認同　知己　驚喜

下年O Camp　大計　藝術　猛人　社工精神　溫暖　興奮　靚女


ＭＡＮ 　ＴＡＬＫ



多麼暢快和有深度的一晚
港大社工．．．

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每晚一個人在房間裡，都會思想自己想走的路向，比較自己和其他大學的朋友老死...
感覺到自己要走的路，己經和舊校相識的他們甚是不同了......
人家的說話應驗了......入了不同的大學，大家的取向、方向、看法、理論、實踐都甚是不同
即使大家的遠程目標相同，但所採取的方法、路向，都己經不同了，甚至像是各走各路了
還記得Ｓ小姐一次的說話，「我覺得你同ＸＸ第日會係兩種好唔同ge 社工」
想不到說話開始應驗了，各人都開始走上了不同的路向
原來當日展鵬的說話的內涵，是如斯的沉重
記得那話好像是這個的意思，「他朝你們各走各路，有一天再聚的時候，所能聯繫你們的那共通點，就是信仰和以前的回憶」

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此刻我希求更多的經歷，更多的見識，更多的際遇，更多的學習
社工學聯對我是一個機會
不同的大學，同一個學系；可能有不同的文化，不同的特色，甚至不同的取向和價值
讓我看看港大以外的人是怎麼樣的
讓我多些了解別人，多個機會去接觸和欣賞別人，而不只困在港大高談闊論
匯聚在一個學會中，不知道會有怎麼樣的火花
我真的想參與其中
不會放棄這個機會
Value, Theory, Practice, 三者並重，不能光是偏向一方，坐在山中空想，對著書本得個讀字，拒絕任何發展的機會
當然，我也明白，自己還有不少事情要兼顧，但我真的見識更多，學習更多，做三者並重的社工。無論是學士、碩士、博士，道理都是一樣

>>December 16, 2006 at 9:17:35 PM GMT+8

2006 年 12 月 10 日 星期日 【晴】

在家晚膳，打邊爐，一家四口，甚是齊人
母親大人的話題依然是有關我和弟弟的前途和學業，與及近來媽媽和其朋友之間的新興話題--大學事

母親再一次問起，「你三年之後係唔係就有專業資格? 人地承認ga? 出到來係專業人士?」

她這樣問起，我立時不禁去想，三年....三年的大學生涯，這麼短的時間，真的會把我從一個無知的少年改造成一位專業人士嗎? 當我想起year 3 的那些社工師兄師妹的那份成熟，就會想到自己，兩年後自己也能如此成熟嗎? 之後真的能成為一個「專業人士」嗎?
我相信自己可以，但這麼快的過程....是否預示著，這兩三年的鍛鍊的程度會是怎麼的樣子? 我期待，但也感到挑戰。
一個若隱若現的未來.............
而再看看自己這個情況，在一個中間的位置，既不再幼稚天真但也不太成熟老鍊，究竟....是什麼的一回事呢....

明白到上帝對自己的要求
感覺到身邊不少人對自己的期望
我也不敢太過鬆懈
很多時候其實都想逃避，回去安逸的生活
但己經不再可能
身負不少的責任，未來還有更多的任務
這一刻明白到，人只有依賴神，將自己的事交上，才有力量和勇氣面對，才有出路
因為神與我們同在，以馬內利

>>December 10, 2006 at 11:18:33 PM GMT+8

2006 年 12 月 10 日 星期日 【晴】

自己的一個好兄弟被校長(不是徐立之)召喚，叫他穿校服去代表學校領獎

我心想，都已經離開了學校那麼久，還什麼還要一個大學生去穿中學校服? 意義何在?
代表學校就一定要穿校服的嗎? 校服對於一個離開母校的人來說，是一種懷念，是一種回憶，而並不是舊校借來利用一下炫耀自己「豐高偉績」的工具

我們不會再穿那一套校服，並不是我們忘本，忘掉舊校對我們的恩惠，而是校服代表那段黃金歲月的過去，可現在我們已走進了另一個階段了......校服之於我們，是一種神聖的回憶，而不是再隨隨便便穿上的衣服.....

離開母校這麼久，學校的高層只記得叫那三位高超的朋友穿校服(還要是夏季，真是啼笑皆非)代表學校領獎。除了這個，高層對我們這班畢業生，還有什麼關顧? 除了發通告叫我們跟時回來拿高考成績表外，還有什麼?

當然，我們不是要求高層去關心一下我們這班「基層」學生，這班平凡而能力中庸的學生。我只想說，請高層們不要這麼功利，把得獎成績好的學生吹捧得比天還高，以獎項和成績為學校之光。只想說一句，宣道會陳瑞芝紀念中學最值得人驕傲的，是基督的恩典、純樸的校風和師生之間的情誼。「成績好」、「Band1」、「入U率高」，不是不重要，但對比起來，這些只是額外的小贈品。當然，我也明白現實是蠻殘酷的

>>December 10, 2006 at 6:58:27 PM GMT+8

2006 年 12 月 7 日 星期四 【晴】

在沙宣道和屯門的生活真是截然不同
單以入睡鐘數而論，我在屯門通常的入睡鐘數是一點至兩點左右，但在沙宣道，通常都是五點幾睡....
初頭都有D 唔慣，但過了三四個月，好似己經慣左。既能在屯門於一兩點入睡，也能在沙宣道於五點入睡。可能重點己在於睡多少個鐘而不是幾點睡覺.....其實無論在那裡，我都係睡五六個鐘....感謝主，今個sem 沒有需要早起的堂，如八點半那些....應該是地獄

突然有興打這個，是因為在此時此刻晚上四點這個鐘數，小弟開始做門訓功課...................
今個禮拜又要做welfare present, 又要做一些樓務，又要傾present, 又要做門訓功課，又要做義工，自己的東西，永遠是零零碎碎但又需要不少時間與及精力投入當中。但小弟竟在白忙之中，「抽空」去了中大一個下午。其實如果不去中大，自己可以不用那麼辛苦，例如門訓功課就可以不用在凌晨四點鐘做。不過，我始終覺得，朋友是值得自己花時間去為之付出的。

>>December 7, 2006 at 4:19:53 AM GMT+8

2006 年 12 月 2 日 星期六 【晴】

身在papers 地獄中...
一份接一份，份份上千字或以上...
莫非....遲D 考試期間，都要繼續寫?

熱切等待十二月廿八....那時候，試考完了，papers 也寫完了...

>>December 2, 2006 at 9:08:56 PM GMT+8

2006 年 11 月 26 日 星期日 【晴】

晨早由屯門出柴灣，無論前一晚同埋在車上都睡得不很舒服
為的就是去ABC 的High Event Challenge Day
今次我地組又玩游繩(由六層樓高的高度落平地!) 又玩trust pole, 真係上天下地
成組人都覺得又刺激又驚慌，小弟對於從高處落地亦驚.....原來半年前九徑西坑那兩跌，影響都真係幾深....

It really a great challenge for many people (including me) as it involve high risk and really new things for every one of us. Peak experience is going to be obtained. In this day, concept of adventure was further learnt and further sharing and learning were obtained. The philosophy of “development-by-challenge-with-support” was also realized, touched and felt by us.
More about “adventure” are learnt in the high event challenge day. “Adventure” refers to the specific subset of experiential programming where the outcome of the experience is uncertain and may contain risks (physical, emotional, etc.). It requires us to use our competence to face our fears of the risks and to resolve the uncertainties of the outcomes. In dealing with these challenges, and by turning perceived limitations into abilities, players will learn a great deal about relationships with others and themselves. These characteristics are more distinct in the programme of high event.
In the day, our group was assigned to play two high event programmes, which are abseiling and trust pole. These two programmes are really challenging as it involve going up and down from a high level of height. It bring about high risks (e.g. risk of falling down from certain height to the ground) and fears (normally no one will go up and down more than 2m in such dangerous approach in diary life). For abseiling, players need to go down to the ground floor from the 6th floor by the help of systematic and well-installed set of rope and equipment. For the “trust pole”, players have to climb up the wooden thin pole by stepping on the pedals and stand up on the top of the pole under the protection of set of rope and equipment. By active participation in this two games, players have to face not only high height but also their own feeling of fear, and knowing what is fear.
First, after we come to the site of the high event, programme of abseiling was carried out. In the game, I am not the first one to play in my group so that I have some time to see how the game be operated in the positions of holding the rope or as outsider when I take the rest. I thought it seems easy and simple for the players to go down when I was watching the process of my groupmates going down from our floor to the ground floor. It seems that it is just a simple jump and what should be noticed are the control of speed and rope. However, when it is my turn to go down, I come to realize that it is not a “simple jump”. I am feared though I know a set of rope and equipment can promote safety and protection for me and the previous groupmates were also successful in going down. I came to realize that I was fearing and nervous. I steps little and fear to step out. Finally I went down after I received confirmation from the cheering and expression of support in the groupmates’ eyes. The process was exciting but nervous. Eventually I forget the most proper way of going down to ground floor. Finally I went down the ground floor with the embrace of my groupmates.
What convinced me from this programme is that I come to face the feeling of fear and nervous. At the debriefing session I shared my feeling during the process. It is really hard for one to accept and recognize that he or she really fear and feel nervous about something and to present his or her need of support from the others in front of the others. For me, originally I think that I can face the “challenge” easily. In fact I have to depend on the others’ support. In the short sharing session I just shared about this and actually I received more support from the others.
Second, we come to the part of trust pole. All of our groupmates shared the same feeling that we all think it is a much “harsh” programme than abseiling. Many groupmates have the difficulty in climbing up the pole as the pole was unstable and shaking though other groupmates had tried their best in stabilizing the pole. Some of us were very frightened and used a lot of time to climb up and stand on the pole. It is really challenging.
In my turn, the most frightening for me is not the climbing of pole but going down of the pole. As I have some experience of climbing and clambering in the similar situation such as the rock in the stream, and under the instruction of my partner and other groupmates, I am able to climb up and thus stand up on the pole though I have certain extent of fear, especially when the pole was shaking and gave me certain uncertainty. However, I am much feared about going down from pole. I asked more questions about how to go down than about how to climb up.
There are two things I can learn and convince in this game. During the debriefing session I come to realize that I have to find out the source of fear. For the case of fearing going down from the high place to the lower place, I discover that it may be because of the experience of two incidentally fallings from the cliff when I am tracing the stream. I get hurried and trouble in the two fallings so that I fear about going down from high place, thinking that I will again fall down and died. I really want to solve such problem of fearing. Another thing learnt and convinced is that everyone can feel what the others are feeling. During the debriefing session, many groupmates shared the feeling of frightening and fear in climb up and going down the pole. But actually the exact things the groupmates frightened were different. It seems that it is hard to share the feeling with each other. However, as our tutor had mentioned, it is impossible for one to experience all the things that the others have experienced. What we can do is to taste the feeling. By the high event, we are able to taste the feeling of fear. So even if we have not experienced the things that the others fear, we can feel the other as we have experienced something to make us fear. So we, the social worker student, are able to share the feeling of fear with the future client – that is the aim of high event .It really gives inspiration and encouragement for me.
Actually in the high event, experiential learning takes place. People get concrete experience in the high event, and have reflective observation on the things happened in the activities. Abstract conceptualization come out under the lead of tutor and people are encouraged to have active experimentation in the diary life.

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其實...對於這兩篇英文paper 及"diary", 連我自己都唔想再睇番一次....可能都無咩人會咁有心機去睇....但我沒時間，打不了中文版...哈哈

>>December 1, 2006 at 4:08:51 AM GMT+8

2006 年 11 月 24 日 星期五 【晴】

電話無故復活，通訊可以正常了
但這次事件告訴我，是事情預備定電話的「身後事」，即係儲錢買部新的....

但小弟到現在為此，都沒有時間做兼職搵錢

>>November 27, 2006 at 5:17:13 PM GMT+8

2006 年 11 月 19 日 星期日 【晴】

去左那個ABC Camp, 獲益良多。正逢這個course 要求大家去完Camp 寫番reflection paper, 寫番有關這個Camp 和學到的事情。那就索性以這份paper 作為有關這個Camp 的日記吧...:

It is stated that the one who want to use experiential learning such as adventure-based counseling to bring about change, inspiration and influence to the others must have the experience of being changed, inspired and influenced by such mode of learning. As a social work student, I am interested with such approach of counseling. In 18th and 19th of November I have experienced what exactly the adventure-based counseling is by joining the camping activities under the leading of the tutors of the course. What I learnt in this camp is out of my originally expectation. Originally I expect to learn and study the designing, leading and debriefing skills of the adventure programme and activity and how the counseling can be carried out in the adventure. In fact, I experienced the process of being inspired and counseled and the feeling of mutual sharing and supporting.
In this camp, many concepts about experiential learning and adventure-based counseling are clarified. Experiential learning refers to the mode of learning which is founded more on the active doing. People join a series of programmes voluntarily and analysis the experience they gained in order to get some knowledge and insights. People practice the very skills they are learning and are more likely to maintain their change back at work. Eventually it can bring about the change in people’s attitude, behavior, skill and inter-personal relationship. And adventure-based counseling is a kind of experiential learning and also a group counseling model that uses a carefully sequenced and processed series of experiential activities to elicit behavior change.
The experiential game provided a chance that we can learn from active doing. Every games and programmes have their message to be brought about (e.g. trust, mutual support). In this camp, there are especially three parts which are very impressive for me and I learn a lot in this parts
First, the walking on V-shaped wood block convinced me the meaning of mutual trust. The experience of walking on different shaped wood block with the accompanying with partner or groupmates tell me that my trust on the companions should be 100%. Even 80% or 90% extent of trust is not enough. For the walking on V-shaped wood block, my partner and I have to walk on the separated wood block hand in hand, and following the routes on the wood block our distance with each others would be wider and wider. So we have to trust with each other and walk synchronously, that you believe that your partners are able to catch up with you and our hand can be tied and not to separate. However, the experience tells me that it is hard to have 100% of trust on the others. As a result we cannot have a perfect and very smooth walk because the unsure element and uncertainty in the mind brought from several percentage of not trust (may be even only 1-2%). The lesson I learn is to find out why I cannot trust the partner in 100% as it will hinder the work that need co-operation.
Second, the action of filling the water pipe with a lot of hole to make the table tennis to float out the pipe convinced me about the spirit of team work. Every groupmates in my group try their best in their position. Some cover up the holes and some run and run to get the water. In fact every position is the hard task as they required high degree of concentration and steadfastness. For example, one cannot give up in the work of covering up the hole and stay in the uncomfortable position as the water will then go out from the hole and make the effort of filling water to labor in vain. Finally every one of us holds our position with all the cloths wetted. Spirit of team work is tasted. People holding the position consistently is actually helping and supporting the other teammates to approach to success. The cheer within us also helps to arise our morale. The main theme of this programme is to let us learn how can we cooperate, supporting and cheering with each other/
Third, the solo walk at night in the countryside gives me most inspiration and supporting feeling. Actually I experienced counseling and support by the tutor and groupmates.
In that night, we have to walk on a trail alone for about 15-20 minutes. The trail is dark and with very little light. Some parts of the trail are even fully in darkness. On this trail, I come into a peaceful environment that allows me to think more thinking. On the first part, I walk quite fast as I want to finish the trail as soon as possible. However, when I meet one of my groupmates and listen to her word “You walk faster and leave me alone to let me to think”, I also walk in a slower speed as I realized that it is a great chance to let me to have thinking. On this trail I think of many things, mostly about the recent situation that is after my entry in University of Hong Kong. I observed the dark environment in the night and I think that it just like the situation I am experiencing in University life. Little light were offered by nature in the night so that I wanted to finish it as soon as possible in order to finish such uncomfortable routes. It just like now that I feel uncomfortable in many aspects in the University life so that I hope that the time of these three years can be gone as soon as possible. The most important reason that lead me to have such thought is that I feel I am walking alone in the journey since the entry of University of Hong Kong, which just like I have to walk alone on this trail in countryside. The best friends in secondary school cannot accompany with me and I have to face the new environment alone. And although I can study the programme which I hoped to study (Social Work), I am not able to discover and find out who share the same mission and enthusiasm on this career as me at first. It made me lacking enjoyment in University life. I really need companion in this University. That is what I think of on the trail.
After all the groupmates finished the trail, we come to a sharing session. In this session many feeling of the groupmates were released and shared. Some shared the bad feeling, insensitivity and loss in the working in the fields of social work such as community development and youth working. Some give their support to our groupmates.
I also shared what I think and feel on the trail, and I get many positive respond and support from the tutor. The most impressive thing is that my tutor asked me to seek companion in this groupmates. I speak out their name and I get positive confirmation and support from them. In fact I wanted to cry at that moment (HaHa). And the tutor told me that “You have your companion with you in the journey of University and the road to social work, look at them.” Actually I experienced change in the mind by such experience and friendship with social work classmates is enhanced.
The above mentioned is actually the things that I get in such experiential learning. By the active participation in the programmes and reflection and sharing in the debriefing session under the lead of tutor, change in they way I feel, think or behave take place. Looking back to the whole process of the adventure, elements of reflection and support are founded. For example, during the debriefing (sharing) at night, our experience and feeling were purposefully examined and this process leads to change in feeling, thinking (some groupmates who feel alone and discouraged in working were supported and cheered up by other groupmates who shared their view point; I was convinced that I have many companions in the study of social work, etc.). It also permits people to continue changing and to lessen their resistance (in mind).
Experiential Learning cycle can be observed in this adventure camping activity as well. By active participating in the games and programmes, groupmates got the concrete experience. And during the debriefing session, tutor asked questions and led the discussion about the previous programmes purposefully (e.g. what is the role of the players in the games? “Leading” or “following”?). Groupmates then have the chance to think of what happened and how the thing happened in the event. Reflective observation is carried out. And tutor based on their observation and sharing to have abstract conceptualization (e.g. statement such as “people really need to support each other as no one can work alone”, “people can share and feel each others feeling by empathy”, etc.). Finally, groupmates were convinced and empowered and encouraged to have change in diary life, which is active experimentation.
To conclude, in this experiential camp, I learn a lot about the concept and practice of adventure-based counseling and experiential learning. Eventually I can taste the feeling of being counseled in such approach and realized more about this mode of learning and counseling.

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去Camp 期間，因為上述玩水遊戲濕身的關係，手提電話，除收線制外，所有按鍵全部不能操作，所以不能接收任何電話及看短訊
只有透過MSN, 家電、宿舍電話 ( 29742337 )或人家於日記版上留言了，才能和其他人聯絡了.....

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同行者Companion............
嗯....
所有Year 1 有心志的社工同學，我們要加油啊!
特別感謝Jacky, Zomi, 蛋治等，多謝你地的支持.....
還有羊怡、koala, 阿sue 等....
我們的情誼還有很多很多時間去增長啊!

>>February 18, 2007 at 6:12:47 PM GMT+8

2006 年 11 月 13 日 星期一 【晴】

「生命若要有意義，就必須投入去愛別人，也接受別人的愛；投入去關懷身邊的人，也欣然接受別人的關心；投入去做自己所喜歡的事，也給予別人空間去做他們所喜歡的事。簡單而言，快樂人生就是全情投入去擁抱生活：困難來到時，克服它；憂慮愁煩臨到，控制它；痛苦患病時，仍積極地盼望和生活，並關心身邊的人」

「生命不在乎長短，乃在乎當中我們怎樣過活，也在乎我們為甚麼而活」

From <<市井聖徒>>　十一月十三日靈修文章：「生之喜悅」( 袁蕙文 )

>>November 13, 2006 at 8:08:31 PM GMT+8

2006 年 11 月 12 日 星期日 【晴】

隨著RC Fest 的完結，小弟也得而抒解不少的壓力
這三個禮拜付出了不少的時間，特別在排「舞」和今個禮拜剪片整相等一系列工作中，小弟可真搏盡了

但我似乎沒有什麼的休息，安老院、陳記攝影學會、History 功課....立即殺來
三件事應該不是非常困難，但也不是輕鬆的事，特別是三件事合在一起，而小弟精力不足的時候，更是一個有相當難度的挑戰

之後還有一大堆要急於收拾的paper 和present...
而未有仔細讀reading, 未有時間整理所學的我，能勝任寫好這些paper 嗎?

寫完paper 就到十二月，到了exam 的大限
revision period 才一個禮拜，reading 卻有大量。
單是introduction to Social Work 與及Welfare 已經有大量的東西未睇未明，我可唔可以考得好?

不過，此刻，我的心卻很平安，不是很大的恐慌
將所有難題羅列整理，定出處理的時間表，是面對難題的好方法~

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星期三門訓
作了檢討
自己對耶穌，對門訓導師及組員，其實真的還可以付出更多
不能再給自己藉口
在星期日主日學及崇拜上，我要盡力
對耶穌的承諾不能隨便忘掉
無論在甚麼境況
Hall affairs 也好、精力不足也好、他日有可能上莊也好
怎麼也要放門訓於first priority
不只是spiritual 上，也要是在practical 上

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似乎不用那麼狠心
接下來依然可以繼續兩年
這真是一個令人又愛又無奈的地方
或許兩年過去，回頭看來，又是一些小事
哈~

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星期五晚的行山，問心，自覺安排不好
雖然不錯，但亦有可以更享受更開心的空間
下次要在交代及時間安排上做得更好

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RC Fest 過後，輕鬆不少後，想到整理到，自己想做的事情:
A.找好友食Tea，中學朋友也好，social work 同學也好
B.試下同不同的群體去行山，例如social work 的同學
C. 考幾個牌。
1.二級、三級山藝，以至一級山藝教練牌；
2.歷奇輔導協會的歷奇輔導導師課程證書：感謝主，原來今個sem 報左的「adventure-based counselling」ge course, 係歷奇輔導協會認可ga.... 計入那個證書課程ge 70%, 出番去完成多30% 就可以拿證書，有資格係出面做歷奇輔導導師
3. 學車
希望呢三年內可以考曬佢地番來!
D. 完成教會「100 初信成長系列」，跟住報浸禮班，跟住受浸！希望能在年半內實現．．．
E. 今年玩「環島行」（綠色力量舉辦），下年後玩「挑戰十二小時」（曲圃舉辦，要在十二小時內由九龍藍塘行衛奕信徑到大埔，共四十二公里）、「雷利衛徑長征」（雷利計劃舉行，行曬成條衛徑，共七十二小時）、「樂善行」（從北潭涌出發、經西灣亭、西灣、鹹田灣、大灣、蚺蛇坳、大浪坳、赤徑、北潭坳回北潭涌，共三十公里）。可以和０６隊員全部玩曬就最好，但和門訓組員、social work 同學、九樓樓友去玩都無所謂~
今年環島行．．．除了我們四條友（阿本、曾佬、皮勳、我）外，我也希望其他０６人和中學朋友也能一起去玩去經歷下呢！男女不拘ga.....真係好好玩好好的一個鍛鍊
F. 希望能衝出HKU, 見識、接觸多D 唔同ge 人和事。FS(社工學聯）的事．．．我會好好考慮

野心很大呢

>>November 12, 2006 at 9:47:49 PM GMT+8