朋友眼中的缺點:
1) unpredictable (e.g. when we asked u to go out, u most of the time say u will show up late, but u never tell us when...and suddenly u may change ur mind u didn't show up la, it's unpredictable, but for such a long time, we all expected hahhaa)
2) too self-centric in a way (1.5) ( e.g. u will choose to do sth follow ur heart, may be cos' u r too carefree)
3) too idealistic (e.g. u will decide something in ur own way.. too idealistic.. and it is a way of self-centric.. like u just go to work for a month, and u will decide to go to do Olympic volunteer suddenly....and u will decide if the company not allow u to take leave, u will just quit, to me it's a way of self centric, of course it doesn't harm anyone, just u dun care abt ur employer too much lor. )
4) 太主觀
5) lack of commitment
6) irrational, have to think more about the reality
7) think too much about others n hurt my ownself
8) quite self concern and not fully consideerate enough.
9) too emotional (2)
10) fly aeroplane too often (2) - you dont really factor people's time plan
11) 口多，八掛
12) too changable, relatively irresponsible
13) difficult to understand
14) too dependent
15) not sensible
16) not respect other's thought
17) push other to think in my way
18) bad communicator
19) do not think about your friends' feelings
20) Moody
朋友眼中的優點:
1) helpful (2) , kind to help (2) , 樂於助人
2) outgoing (2)
3) talkative, 健談 (2)
4) trustable 好可靠
5) considarate
6) reliable 信得過
7) friendly
8) carefree
9) freespirit
10) good heart
11) too sociable, if u have bf, maybe he don't like
12) adventurous (3), very adventurous
13) love to smile
14) kind (2)
15) sweet, sweet personality
16) sensible (明智的;合情理的, also practical / understanding)
17) optimistic, positive (2)
18) warm hearted
19) intelligent
20) cheerful (2) , 開朗
21) straight forward
22) not think about myself enough, should think more bout urself..dun do sth that will make urself upset
23) hv very good communications skills
24) charming
25) sincere to people
26) very caring, caring for others
27) happy
28) sometimes a little too crazy
29) done many different types of jobs/things, travelled to many different places and you have done things I always wanted to do!!!!
30) sensitive
31) takes on challenges
32) good listener
33) 大情大性
34) 好學
35) open-minded (2)
36) easy-going, mo-so wai
37) has a good heart
38) sexy
39) fun
40) Friendly, 對人友善
41) empathetic, understanding
42) 積極
自己認為的缺點:
1) bad temper
2) too impulsive (when want to do sth, will do it rt a way)
3) too fat
4) too dark
5) dont care about wht other thinks if i really think that is the right way
6) insecure
7) lack of self confidence
8) not determined 沒有恆心
9) lack of self discipline
10) never able to lose weight
11) 力不從心
12) poor wealth management
13) self value is low in love aspect
14) lack of self confidence
15) dependent
15) insecure
自己認為的優點
1) spiritual
2) generous
3) if agree to take up some role, will make sure to finish it
4) adventurous
5) love to smile
6) considerate
7) good to old people
8) not materialistics
9) warm hearted
朋友建議:
1) 凡事留一線
2) don't beg for a relationship to continue
>>July 31, 2008 at 4:31:53 AM GMT+8
2008 年 7 月 23 日 星期三 【晴】
在愛情方面
自信心從來也不夠
最近塔羅呀朋友呀也叫我減肥扮靚
一直照他們的建議努力著
直至看到這篇 email
我打算改變我的 mindset
扮靚不只是為了溝仔
而是因為我喜歡打扮了的自己
因為我 feel good
就算有時候不打扮
只要我 feel good
那便行
feel good 成為了大前提
不過我想倘若我能滿意自己的身體
滿意自己的內在
我會變得自信些
那也會開心些
但又會否便得很自大呢?
自信跟自大
應怎樣去揣摩?
extract from the Mirabelle Summers email:
作者以例子說明女性行為的不同心態, 括號是她建議建立的心態
- The new mom who goes back to work beforeshe's really ready to, because she feels that her
husband is putting pressure on her.
MOTIVATION: pressure and fear
(as opposed to a genuine desirefor independence and freedom.)
- The woman who starts a diet because her boyfriend asked her 'when's the baby due?'.
MOTIVATION? Insecurity
(as opposed to a spontaneous personal decision and a desire to be fitter and happier.)
- The woman who grows out her short funky hairstyle because she thinks that MEN prefer women
with long hair.
MOTIVATION: Insecurity and neediness
(as opposed to personal style.)
When your motivations to live your life are based in neediness, pressure from others, or a mistaken belief that 'people will like you better that way' ...... as opposed to a strong and empowered belief that YOU will like yourself better that way ..... then the end result is never going to be happiness or confidence.
(我想我會比較喜歡瘦些, 脾氣好些, 漂亮些, 自信些, 做多謝運動, 練習靜坐的自己)
Instead, you're actually eating away at your own confidence ... and, naturally, your irresistibility to others ... because you're choosing to believe THEIR reasons over YOUR OWN. And there is nothing attractive about a needy, insecure woman!
When you're doing something simply because it feels right for YOU, and because it's an honest reflection of who you genuinely are in that given moment, something very interesting will happen. You'll discover that, when you not act upon your personal truth, and make an effort to be true to YOURSELF, and craft your life and your self into the shape that YOU genuinely want them to take ..... not only do you enjoy your life a heck of a lot more ..... but you ALSO become NATURALLY and IRRESISTIBLY ATTRACTIVE.
It's something that you JUST ARE, and it happens as a result of how honestly and authentically you're living your life and how engaged and passionate you are about the choices you're making.
They're of interest to others, and they're attractive in the TRUE sense of the word ... meaning that other people are just drawn to them, and find their company energizing and uplifting. As you can imagine, this kind of attractiveness, and the lifestyle that leads to it, is not only of IMMENSE benefit to you as a lifestyle, but will also have positive repercussions in many other aspects of your life: friendships, business relationships, family relationships, romantic relationships ...
When you're comfortable with yourself and where you're going, people are drawn to you. Simple as
that. And THAT is what being truly attractive is all about.
In a nutshell, the definition of someone who is genuinely attractive is somebody who is NOT TRYING
TO BE ATTRACTIVE. It's somebody who is living their life a certain way because that's what gives them the
most fulfillment and pleasure, not because other people might find them more appealing that way.
The reason that it's so important to clarify this is because a lot of women get really bogged down in unhelpful conceptions of what constitutes 'attractive'.
Our society really conditions us to focus on people's OUTSIDES, and so as a result, many of us obsess about our appearances, and our figures, and whether we have wrinkles or not ... etc.
What I really want to make clear is that it's how YOU feel about YOURSELF that has the biggest impact on how attractive to others you are. And it's really all about WHY you're doing things.
For example, if you're trying to look good because you think you will be more appealing to others that way, you'll find that you're always feeling unsatisfied and worried about whether you're having the right 'effect' on people. But if you want to look good because YOU FEEL GREAT WHEN YOU FEEL ATTRACTIVE, then THAT is the kind of attitude that does nothing but GOOD for the actions it generates.
If a woman is not confident enough in herself to even shape her APPEARANCE the way she likes it
... if she'll take somebody else's opinion over her own on something as inconsequential as HAIR COLOR
... then that woman has some SERIOUS self-esteem issues.(not surprisingly, given the fact that I'd handed over all the power to him and kept none to myself.)
>>July 24, 2008 at 1:16:57 AM GMT+8
2008 年 7 月 22 日 星期二 【晴】
吃了中醫的藥雖然便便確有改善
但肚子仍然很漲
而且這幾天在攪肚痛
怎麼了......
星期六去復診
>>July 23, 2008 at 8:08:13 AM GMT+8
2008 年 7 月 21 日 星期一 【晴】
非常喜歡看設計
喜歡人類的創意
以下節錄自 fwd email:
荷蘭的設計師Jelte van Geest
所設計的一張椅子(Take a seat)，只要透過每人獨有的圖書館證上的RFID，就可以驅動一張專屬的沙發椅緊緊跟著你，走到那，找到書就能馬上坐下來，再也不用去找位子，而且也不怕一旦離開位子一下就被人佔去的問題，因為這是你專屬的椅子。一旦人離開圖書館後，椅子還會自動歸位，神奇吧。
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