2009 年 2 月 14 日 星期六 【晴】

情人節快樂
願天下有情人終成眷屬 .. ...
但阿瑤昨晚竟然說要「對世界說愛你
睇下今日我同到幾多個人講我愛你先=v=
我愛你呀!
情人節快樂!
(呢個人short左)」 ~ 希望(「?」「??」的)妳沒有真的short到
但就算真的short 或變成怎樣
那個傻仔還是那麼愛妳的 ~ 因為他真的是傻的
昨天他竟然忘了自己做過多少次全身麻醉手術呢 ~ 將4次說成3次


多浪漫的故事 ... ...
但不知今日做乜咁做起身嘅家妹 只說那個男人傻 ... ...

＊想不到今天 (情人節) ~ 小弟竟然有機會用50蚊就可以包場呢 !!! 02月14日 Sat 8:38:16

Pucker Up! What Science Is Finding About Why We Kiss
You may be surprised what messages you're sending and receiving when you lock lips.
By Katherine Hobson, U.S. News & World Report
There's nothing like a good kiss. You lean toward your beloved, close your eyes, hope your breath is okay, and ... fade to black. But a kiss, as we're now learning from scientific research, is hardly just a kiss. Rather, it's a complex act of courtship that may help us pick our mate, perhaps even through unconscious chemical signals, and assess and maintain a relationship. "Kissing is not just lips meeting other lips," says Sarah Woodley, Ph.D., a biologist at Duquesne University in Pittsburgh.

Many philematologists—those who study kissing—agree that it began as a way for mothers to pass on pre-chewed food to their infants. Obviously it's come a long way since then, but scientists are beginning to tease out exactly what the prototypical long smooch between two adults means. What purpose does it serve?

Differences among the sexes
As with so many other aspects of sexual behavior, the answer may be different for men and women. Gordon Gallup Jr., Ph.D., a psychologist at the State University of New York at Albany who in 2007 examined how kissing was perceived by more than 1,000 undergraduate students, found that the average female sees kissing as essential. Females "wouldn't dream" of having sex with someone without kissing first, and were also much more likely to emphasize kissing during and after sex, says Gallup. It suggests that "females are much more prone to use kissing as a mate-assessment device," he says. And even within an ongoing relationship, they use kissing as a way to update and monitor its status, he says.

Men, by contrast, use kissing as a means to an end—that is, sex. They were far more willing to have sex without kissing, the study found, and while a bad first kiss can be a deal-breaker for both genders, men are more willing to go ahead and have sex with someone whose kiss is unpleasant.

And how is all this assessment and evaluation being conducted? "At the moment of a kiss, there is a very complicated exchange of all kinds of different information," says Gallup. Some of it is in chemical form. Contained in male saliva, for example, are small amounts of testosterone, which is known to boost libido in both genders. It's possible, Gallup says, that repeated and prolonged exposure—that is, many makeout sessions over days and weeks and months—may increase the female's sex drive. (That might explain why men prefer sloppier kisses than women, too—they're trying to get her in the mood.)

There are probably also chemical messages being sent that we've barely begun to identify. While the term "pheromone" has been used to describe chemical messages sensed by special sensory organs in many animals, its use to describe chemicals in humans has been more confusing, since we don't possess the same organs. But nomenclature aside, the idea that humans emit some kind of chemical signals, whether pheromones or something else, that are sensed by and may influence other humans, is pretty well accepted, says Woodley. The mechanism of transmission isn't nailed down; some may be transmitted by taste, while others might be present in saliva, then volatilized and sensed by the nasal cavity. We may able to smell some of these odors, or learn to, but others may be imperceptible, she says.

The role of testosterone
Some of these chemicals might play a role similar to the theorized role of testosterone in saliva, making females less tense and happier (and more prone to have sex). Or, the odors might help in assessing whether a potential mate is of high genetic quality or is genetically compatible, she says. Certain genes govern the "major histocompatibility complex"—proteins involved in the immune system that help identify whether foreign bodies are part of us or not. (The similarity of an organ donor's and recipient's MHC plays a major role in determining whether the organ is accepted or rejected.) "These genes also make people smell different," says Woodley, and how you judge a potential mate's smell may indicate whether his immune system or general genetic makeup is similar to yours.

The evolutionary goal: to mate with someone whose genes are different enough to provide healthy diversity (i.e. not your brother) while still being in the same species. The notion hasn't always been borne out by research—which usually involves women sniffing men's sweaty T-shirts and rating the attractiveness of the odor—but it's still a viable theory, says Woodley. Something similar may be going on with kissing. These chemical signals might join other cues we get from the closeness and intimacy of kissing and combine to give an instant, hard-wired impression of whether this person is the right one with whom to mate. "When you get a highly intelligent, pair-bonding species that requires years to raise a baby, you evolve more and more brain mechanisms to weed out the losers and find out what works for you," says Helen Fisher, an anthropologist at Rutgers University. (Fisher has also looked into the broader question of what fuels romantic attraction.)

Kissing and stress reduction
Kissing may also reinforce pair bonding, helping to maintain relationships. Research by Wendy Hill, Ph.D., a neuroscientist at Lafayette College, in Easton, Pa., has shown that kissing reduces levels of the stress hormone cortisol. In a study to be presented on Valentine's Day at the annual meeting of the American Association for the Advancement of Science, Hill and her co-authors report that a second study, also small, found that the longer the relationship between the two parties, the more cortisol levels declined. (So did cortisol levels in the control group of couples who talked softly rather than kissing.) Hill is also studying the role of oxytocin, a social bonding hormone that promotes calm and attachment; previous research has suggested it rises during kissing, at least in men.

Whatever we have yet to learn about the science of kissing, there's no denying that it seems to act as an indicator of how a twosome is doing. "In an established relationship, the frequency of kissing is a good barometer as to its status," says Gallup. "If it's no longer featured prominently or is entirely absent, there's a much higher probability that the relationship is in trouble. "


若不是遲了出門 ~ 發短訊給學生告訴她可能會遲點到
也不知原來她今天沒有空補習 ~ 今天沒有空 竟不一早說
好彩錯過了九點三那班車 ~ 好彩佢喺九點半那班車到站前回短訊給我
~ 平時又唔見話星期六唔得閒 ~ 之後打比佢阿媽又搵唔到
打去佢屋企又冇人聽 ~ 究竟佢有冇講大話呢?!
十一點要補習 ... ... 真定假嘅呢 ...... 02月14日 Sat 10:07:47

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如果商務都有得賣就好 (可以儲分嘛 ~ 如果啲真係儲番落09年就好　～ 可怒也! 上年9月封信寫住我唔夠一千分 尋日收到封信就寫著有成二千二百分 ~ 差幾百就三千分
可以繼續八折喇 ~ 可惡!可惡!可惡!!!)
仲有一本書叫《完全圖解 戀愛心理學》 ~ 講咩嘅呢? 本書係咪真係有料到嘅呢 ... ...

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